Sufferer Intro

[NowYouSeeMe]

Hi

I am new to this forum so just saying hello to all out there.
I have joined this community to try and benefit from peer support with others who are also living with a diagnosis of ptsd and going through treatment as i currently am.
I don't want to disclose to much at this point but hopefully over time i'll be able to share my story. Even as I wrote that last sentence i felt rediculous. Really in the grand scheme of things what happened to me is not a big deal and honestly i feel like i should just get over myself. As many of you will know it's not quite that simple.
As much as I really would like to be better I also am afraid i don't really want to because i equate getting better with forgiveness and in truth i don't want or don't feel ready for that.
This is the most paradoxical injury/illness.

Nice to "meet" you all

p.s. i resent the sufferer label... dear admin can we have a person with ptsd label instead?!?!?!

 

[Tinyflame]

Hi welcome.

Hummingbirds mean Joy. :) (I love the picture. )

 

[Bloomy]

Welcome and agree upon not having the sufferer, but rather the ptsd label

 

[NowYouSeeMe]

ummmm also is ptsd incurable? i was under the impression that it is treatable (which i know it is) and that treatment can make it go away?

 

[NatBird]

Hi

I am new to this forum so just saying hello to all out there.
I have joined this community to...

Welcome:)

 

[Kailani]

Hi welcome!!!! Hope you feel better and find what you are looking for in healing!

 

[claroscuro]

Warmest welcome to the forum. I hope you find this to be a supportive, compassionate, and informative community.

You're absolutely right, it's not quite as simple as simply getting over it. If it were, you wouldn't have PTSD. I think we often try and downplay what happened to us because it provides short term relief when facing our trauma, but the trauma escalator is counterproductive as that often leads to reinforced feelings of inadequacy, inability, guilt, etc.

When you say you link getting better with forgiveness, forgiveness for who? I make no assumptions by asking this question, but I have noticed that many of us struggle with feelings of guilt. You need not answer this question outside of yourself. Getting better is about you, learning to manage this disorder. Some may find relief in forgiveness, but I don't think finding forgiveness for anyone but myself (due to unreasonable blame I assign myself for having been abused, which doesn't even truly require forgiveness, but rather accepting that I wasn't in any way responsible for my trauma) will benefit my healing in any way. Here is a link to an interesting discussion regarding forgiveness, and acceptance as an alternative:

https://www.myptsd.com/threads/the-f-word-will-help-you-heal.63893/

 

[EveHarrington]

Welcome to the forum! :)

PTSD isn't "curable" but very much treatable to the point of zero symptoms and remission (for some but sadly not all).

Forgiveness isn't required to heal.

 

[JEKBreatheandBelieve]

Welcome. I love the hummingbird picture. I have found this to be a great place of support and information. I hope you will, too.

Really in the grand scheme of things what happened to me is not a big deal and honestly i feel like i should just get over myself.

I have felt that way, too, but alas it is a big deal. There's not one-size-fits-all trauma that you must have gone through in order to get PTSD. If it affects your life in such a way that you have been diagnosed with PTSD, then it's bad enough. It's how it affects you that matters, not how it compares to others.

ummmm also is PTSD incurable? i was under the impression that it is treatable (which i know it is) and that treatment can make it go away?

No such much curable as treatable. And with proper treatment comes the ability to learn coping skills as you process and for some people it greatly lowers your symptoms or goes into "remission" for awhile maybe even great lengths of time. However, it will always kind of be there.

 

[WillyKat]

Even as I wrote that last sentence i felt rediculous. Really in the grand scheme of things what happened to me is not a big deal and honestly i feel like i should just get over myself. As many of you will know it's not quite that simple.

You're right; it's not that simple.

A very long time ago, I tried group therapy. I said something similar at my first meeting. The group moderator said "it's not a contest." So I'd like to pass that on to you.

Welcome to the forum.

 

[joeylittle]

Hi, @NowYouSeeMe - welcome.

p.s. i resent the sufferer label... dear admin can we have a person with ptsd label instead?!?!?!

This is a debate that flares up every once in awhile. But, I don't see us changing it anytime soon. It's a debilitating disorder, and many would agree that they suffer from it. I understand it's not to your taste, but it's not inaccurate. It also doesn't preclude living with PTSD, surviving PTSD, or simply being a person with PTSD.

The tags in the intro forum serve to provide quick guidance to a member's status, nothing more nor less. You're certainly free to refer to yourself in the forums however you'd like - this forum is the only one where you'd specifically tag yourself as a sufferer, supporter, undiagnosed, or other (generally researchers, therapists, etc)

I don't want to take your intro thread off-topic; but, since you asked, did want to respond.

Again, welcome. :) I hope the site becomes a good place for you to be.

 

[NowYouSeeMe]

Hi, @NowYouSeeMe - welcome.

This is a debate that flares up every once in awhile...

Thanks for this jokey