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5 Love Languages

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I brought this up in the chat 2 days ago, and it came up in another thread today (which is what reminded me to post this).

The basis behind the 5 love languages is that every person speaks a different language and if you and your partner are speaking a different language from one another you may not be fulfilling one another's needs and not even realizing it.

There are 5 love languages

http://www.5lovelanguages.com/

1) Words of Affirmation
2) Acts of Service
3) Receiving Gifts
4) Quality Time
5) Physical Touch

The problem is the test is not free to take *BUT* I just so happened to get back from a marriage seminar and copied the test into a PDF format and attached it to this thread so you can download it and print it and you and your partner can take the test for free.

The test is simple to take. There are 30 questions. Simply pick one of two choices for each question and circle the appropriate "X" that corresponds with your answer. When you have finished all 30 questions total up all the Xs in each column. The column with the most Xs is your love language. There is a legend at the bottom of the page to tell which column = which language.

I am sorry but question #17 got split between page 1 and 2 just know the first half of the question is on page 1 and the second half of the question is on page 2.

I hope this helps someone as much as it helped my wife and I; I look forward to the comments. Enjoy :)
 

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You can take it here for free.

http://www.5lovelanguages.com
Honestly I don't know what I'm doing with my life hahaha, I've never even been in a relationship (yet) and I'm taking this random quiz when I have to wake up early tomorrow lol.

I got:
10 points for quality time
9 points for physical touch
8 for words of affirmation
3 for receiving gifts
0 for acts of service
 
5LL is something I loooooove. It's one of those just plain old common sense = freaking genius things. I've taken the test before, no surprises, then... And roughly the same results now. Touch is always maxed out, and then the rest group a bit.

12 - Physical Touch
7 - Quality Time
7 - Words of Affirmation
2 - Acts of Service.
2 - Gifts

Gifts gets a bad rap IMO. It's my son's primary, and it took me awhile to wrap my head around... Because I think of gifts like birthdays and Xmas. But that's not it, with him. It's anything that is a 'was thinking of you' token. From an origami crane, to snagging a second sammie or coffee when I'm out wihout him and bringing him back one, to a comic book, or camping trip. Free/expensive doesn't matter. It's anything from me, to him. Literally anything. Even the paper wrapper off of a straw (all crinkled up to make a snake when you drip soda onto it). And he keeps track. He knows the provenance of everything in his life. "But that's from so&so!!!" is why meaningless junk -to me- never makes it into the garage sale, meanwhile items he actually bought and uses on a daily basis end up in the donation pile. (And is part of why I NEVER clean out any of his stuff. I never know what's important to him, as a love token, as something he got from someone... Versus something that's just rubbish. If it's his? I don't touch it. And I also don't think or describe ANYTHING he owns as junk, outside of someplace like here, trying to describe the physical value or usefulness. Actual value? None. Sentimental value? Priceless. Means it's priceless. Period.)
 
9 Physical Touch
8 Quality Time
8 Words of Affirmation
3 Acts of Service
2 Receiving Gifts

I am better balanced than I thought. I thought physical touch would have ranked higher as well as gifts since I see sex as a gift. Now to see my wife's results.
 
Well, I'm not entirely surprised on my scores:

Your Scores
9 Quality Time
8 Acts of Service
8 Physical Touch
5 Words of Affirmation
0 Receiving Gifts

I AM surprised receiving gifts got absolutely nothing. I like gifts, but "stuff" is a waste of space for me. So I guess I could see it. I have a ring that my boyfriend got me that I wear all the time, never take it off. I care very much for my grandma's necklace she gave me. But I guess looking back, I don't really hold on to cards or gifts. It matters more that "so and so" (mom, dad, friend, etc) THOUGHT of me enough to give me a gift they thought I would enjoy. That's why I hang on to things, but I guess I'm surprised I didn't get at least one. Maybe everything else on that quiz just meant more to me than gift giving. Huh.
 
My wife and I have really different love languages and making it worse, we each feel resentful toward the other for not 'speaking our language.' Today was a rough day for us. I will post to my own thread rather than hijack this one but thanks for the free survey links.
 
Hooper said:
9 Physical Touch
8 Quality Time
8 Words of Affirmation
3 Acts of Service
2 Receiving Gifts
Click to expand...

I got my wife to take it and here are her results:
11 Acts of Service
9 Quality Time
5 Physical Touch
4 Words of Affirmation
1 Receiving Gifts

I had a feeling acts of service would score high. Things improved a lot when I started getting up at 5:30 with her and cooking breakfast vs just waking up with the kids at 6:30. Doing more cleaning around the house didn't hurt either.
 
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