Childhood Very Interesting

[BoN-bOn]

I found a very interesting article today & thought I would share.
I couldn't figure out how to post the link on here, but if you google "the invisible scar wordpress" it will be the first result. Click on "for adult survivors of emotional abuse.

In my journey of C-PTSD, I am dealing with the affects of childhood emotional & physical abuse from my parents as well as rape sexual abuse as a child, & then domestic violence in my adult years. This made so much sense to me! Especially,

Unfortunately, because emotional abuse is often tolerated or because the abusive parents are very secretive in their abuse (hiding their true selves when in public), emotionally abused children will assume that how they were treated at home was natural. They have no frame of reference. And so, the child will develop a skewed sense of what a healthy relationship is.

My parents were VERY religious and involved in church. I just always assumed I was a "bad kid."

I also related to the part that said...

An emotionally abused child usually continues being emotionally abused by the parents long into adulthood. The patterns have already been established since the child’s earliest years. The dynamics of the family have been set into place. Nothing is to drastically change it—unless the child grown up awakens.

Some adults experience a jolt, a sudden flash of memory, that is triggered by an event, a song, a movie scene, anything, really. Others remain asleep until the abusive parents become abusive grandparents—continuing the cycle of emotional abuse to the adult survivor’s children. Others will just reach the point where they cannot take it anymore; enough is enough.

And the abused child-turned-adult awakens, slowly realizing that not everything is as it has seemed. Everything is different now.

I think I am really "awakening" now!!

 

[Freedomfighter]

I found a very interesting article today & thought I would share.
I couldn't figure out how to post the...

Every single word of that article resonates strongly with me. The child has no frame of reference as to what a healthy relationship is. That is what my dad did to all of us in the family, it cost my mom her life.

 

[BoN-bOn]

Every single word of that article resonates strongly with me. The child has no frame of referenc...

My Dad is STILL doing it!