Childhood How Do I Get Out!?

[XXbabydollXX]

Hi. I'm 16 years old and I'm suffering from what I believe to be bipolar disorder and ptsd. I don't want to repeat my abuse again so click the link and come back to read the rest. https://www.myptsd.com/threads/scared-of-the-monster-bb-dolls-story.64463/
Ok. I was sexually abused as a child by my sperm donor. He and his wife emotionally abuse me and say how pathetic and worthless I am when I come to visit on weekends. They are both narcs btw. I live with my non narc mother during the week she knows how evil they are. These narcs are and portray the perfect family image outside of their house. making me increasingly suicidal. I heard that they can change child visitation laws in the US if it affects the child's wellbeing. if I stay who knows what will happen. Thanks for listening.

 

[EveHarrington]

:hug:

I have no idea what the laws are in your state.

Is there any way you can get a children's welfare advocate or something like that who can vouch for you and make it so you don't have to see your abusive sperm donor?

 

[Gs172003]

Hi. I'm 16 years old and I'm suffering from what I believe to be bipolar disorder and ptsd. I don...

I'm sorry hun. Is there any way to stop going? Can your mom take it to court?

 

[Gs172003]

Hi. I'm 16 years old and I'm suffering from what I believe to be bipolar disorder and ptsd. I don...

Oh and don't try to diagnose yourself. Talk to a professional.

 

[Friday]

It depends what state you're in "when" you get a say in custody/visitation. Some states it's very young, others somewhere in the teen years, and states like mine not until you're 18 / a legal adult. Although the wiggle room around that is that emancipation can usually happen at 16, there are a whole bunch of requirements to full fill (like proving you're capable of living on your own & supporting yourself & attending school, even if you're planning on still living with one of your parents).

 

[BuckarooBanzai]

He and his wife emotionally abuse me and say how pathetic and worthless I am when I come to visit on weekends. They are both narcs btw.

Tell your mother, your court representative - and the judge, for that matter, if you have access - that you don't want to see him and why. At sixteen, you should have a say in the matter. Even if you live in a state where you are not considered old enough to make the determination yourself, at sixteen years of age any reasonable judge should take your opinion seriously.

Ask your school counselor to help you document your case. Perhaps, he or she will be willing to make a statement to the court on your behalf.

 

[Mad]

I saw your story and it actually motivated me into participating.

My dad is a sociopathic narcissist. My older sister was his favorite while I was pretty much ripped apart or ignored. There was extreme psychological abuse after my parents got divorced and when I was 12, I went to court with my mom against him for the first time. I kept seeing him for another year, but I was able to get out.

I strongly recommend looking into the legal options available to you in your state and I wish you the best of luck. No matter how terrible the parent is, it is extremely hard to cut them out. I hope you stay strong and don't give up on getting out.

I'm now 25 and haven't seen my dad in 13 years. Be safe.

 

[Mad]

Oh and don't try to diagnose yourself. Talk to a professional.

At 16, not everyone has a choice. I had to be violently throwing up from panic attacks before anyone even thought to help me get diagnosed as a kid.

 

[Gs172003]

At 16, not everyone has a choice. I had to be violently throwing up from panic attacks before anyone even t...

Self diagnosis is a bad idea. I do agree that not all can.

 

[BuckarooBanzai]

At 16, not everyone has a choice.

But you can choose to see your school counselor. If he or she believes you need to get away, they will help you get this into family court.

A school counselor's opinion in open court means something - and so does your opinion, whether your state laws deem you able to choose for yourself or not.

 

[Mad]

But you can choose to see your school counselor. If he or she believes you need to get away, the...

You are absolutely right. They failed me, but that isn't the case for a lot of people.

On a side note:
I also am not advocating self diagnosis, I just know that sometimes people need to try to understand what is happening to them. As a kid, you have to rely on others to be either willing or able to help you meet someone who can give you a proper diagnosis. Till that happens, it can be comforting to put a label on it so they can feel less alone and find communities of people who understand what they may be going through. The only point I was trying (probably poorly) to make is that the lack of a diagnosis shouldn't invalidate a persons feelings and perceptions of what is happening to them.

 

[BuckarooBanzai]

the lack of a diagnosis shouldn't invalidate a persons feelings and perceptions of what is happening to them.

I agree!