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Sexual Assault Self-defense

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Anxiety.... Like all the time. I continuously feel anxious about being assaulted again, or killed, or worse, something happening to my family. I know a lot of it is the PTSD. I imagine the worst, because I could have never imagined what I would have gone through before it happened and somehow I think I feel more in control...Idk honestly, because it more or less makes me paranoid. I have constant nightmares about being chased and overpowered. Has anyone taken a self-defense course and found it to be helpful?
 
I've always wanted to and was signed up to one time, but backed out because it was in another town and I was afraid to be gone overnight by myself.
 
Self-defense classes can be very empowering. I used to teach one, but I geared it more towards women and children who had already been assaulted. I turned my classes into support groups basically, with everyone reframing whatever attack they dealt with. They learned specifics on how to get out of various attacks, but it inevitably went back to "but what if they do...?" which was usually what they had succumbed to in a previous attack. Everyone loved my classes, I miss teaching those.

By all means find one and take it, but be advised that there will be actual physical contact made throughout the class. You will have to hit and kick, be grabbed or an attempt to grab will be made, and its all necessary to the learning process. Do some research and find a class that you will be comfortable in, INTERVIEW the instructor and make sure the person is not a douche (I've met plenty of those!). Some police departments hold seminars, or you can check with various martial art schools in your area.

The most important aspect to look at is personal comfort and practicality. Some self-defense approaches work better than others, but my take is "SOME training is better than nothing". Make sure the instructor knows if you're having difficulty with a particular move, and be prepared to need to take a step back and slow down on the actual practice portion. I had one student, an older female, who had PTSD but she still insisted on taking our martial arts class. My instructor triggered the crap out of her every time we did techniques, and even if I did them she'd freeze! I had to ground her and be very gentle with grabs until she learned to do that for herself and get comfortable with me grabbing her (I was constantly having to step between her and the instructor, because he loved to push too hard).

All this to say, by all means find a class and get some training! but research and be prepared for what you're getting into. Don't just take the first class you see available, shop around. You're worth the extra effort of learning in a safe and comfortable environment. Good luck!
 
Actually, I just ordered a gun. So I'll have that too.
Good. Make sure that you go to a gun range and learn how to use it so that you are very, very comfortable with it. Then apply for a concealed carry permit. I happen to live in a state where you don't need one, but that is unusual. You will never be comfortable with it, or feel safe, if it is always stuck in a drawer somewhere.
 
Talk to a lawyer first. I was put in a self-defense role back in 2006 when a man I knew forced his way into my home and began threatening me. I drew a gun in self-defense. I was "lucky". I only did 30 days in jail, when the judge could have put me away for 17 years. Now, being a felon, I still have ZERO right to self-defense. Now I'm in Utah and here it's stricter. Last summer I told the police if someone breaks into my home and threatens me, I'm not calling 911, I'm just gonna kill the MoFo. Now I am now charged with a Felony 2, Making Terroristic Threats. An F2 is 1 to 15 years.

Being a cripple means having no rights. Defend yourself, and you stand a fair chance of prison.
Just saying....
 
Talk to a lawyer first. I was put in a self-defense role back in 2006 when a man I knew forced his way into my home and began threatening me.

Oh my goodness! That is terrible! Thank you for sharing your experience. The system just isn't set up to offer real support at all. :(
 
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I have taken one, but I personally found it to be way more triggering than helpful. However I have also heard of people who found learning self defense very empowering.
Different strokes for different folks I guess...
 
I've taken many self defense classes, both professionally & personally and they were all fantastic & so much fun (even though i chipped a tooth on a gun in one class, my partner was a twatwaffle!). All of that was before the ptsd though, so I have no advice in that regard. You may be able to find a class just for SA survivors, or one specifically on SA self defense (I took one when I was 10, so enlightening). I hope you do take a class, it will be so empowering to know how to fight back & defend yourself. Good luck with your search.
 
Anxiety.... Like all the time. I continuously feel anxious about being assaulted again, or killed, or wo...
I became lethal in 3 fighting styles after... My hope. That I will never again be a victim. I hope I'm right. Every tool you have makes you stronger.
 
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