Death My mother died this morning

[Lionheart]

Early this morning, and after 80 years, my mom's body released her spirit. I am already having PTSD nightmares which as many of you know are deeply disturbing...

The grief seems impossibly difficult at times and at others it feels like a release; a relief that she is no longer struggling or suffering. Then, at even other times, I just feel numb.

I am starting this thread because I really need more support with this than I realized.

Thank you in advance for sharing,

Lionheart777

 

[Suzetig]

I'm very sorry for your loss @Lionheart777, I hope you're able to find rest in the midst of grief.

 

[A little lost]

Hi Lionheart777,
I'm sorry about your mum.
If there's anything I can do to try to support you on here then please let me know and I'll do my best. I was with my mum and nursed her all through her cancer diagnosis and her death. So although I don't know you or your mum, I hope I can be some support to you if you want me, also my sister died fairly recently.
I don't know how much help I can be but I did have grief counselling following the trauma of everything that went on with my mum leading to and during her death.
Kind thoughts coming your way from across the Pond

 

[Lionheart]

@A little lost ,

Thank you for offering to help!!! I have never had any grief counseling and could probably benefit from knowing what has helped you most thru your own grief and loss.

I lost my father 5 years ago this December, but I was estranged from my father for a long time and had the benefit of getting to talk to him just before he passed on, which I did not have with my mother.

My mother was the matriarch and backbone of our small family. Mom was 80 years old and died from complications of 4th stage COPD. She and I were close as a son and mother could be, I loved her dearly and always will.

A little lost myself,
Lion

PS: I will be on and offline for awhile but will check for messages as I am able.

 

[Kintsugi]

I am so sorry for your loss. Lionheart. Keep reaching out here. We care about you. I obviously didn't know your mother, but I know she raised a beautiful son who gives of himself generously to others in this community. We're here for you.

 

[A little lost]

@A little lost ,

Thank you for offering to help!!! I have never had any grief c...

Good to meet you Lion.
I'm sorry to have to dodge out for a few hours just as I meet you and offer help. It's gone 1.30 am here and I'm going to need to crash just now. I'll get back to you ASAP tomorrow, I hope you are ok with that.
we can be a little lost together to try and get you through this.
Lost

 

[intothelight]

So sorry for your loss Lion, :hug:

 

[Deadman]

@Lionheart777 First my condolences for your loss.

I lost my father a few years back. He was far more important to me than I realized. I found what helped me the most was following his wishes for what he wanted after his death. Keeping my promise to him helped ease the sting.

 

[ladee]

Oh Lion, I am so sorry... a huge void left in your life ... I know the back and forth feelings. Same when my mom died... So grateful she was no longer suffering, and so wanted her for another 50 years.... too much loss for you right now... know we are here for you.... Her legacy is you... a very loving, kind and compassionate man.... we are grateful to her for you....

Please keep in touch and share when you are overwhelmed, we are here to help carry what is just too large for you right now.
Gentle hugs... and prayers.

 

[Deleted member 28740]

What I learned was to be very kind to myself in how my grief manifested, my vulnerability. No shame in crying, honoring your great loss, which IS a great gift still. The gift is still in there, the love, spirt, heart given does not go away, it just aches that you can not touch it. An interior connection, always there. In time (grieving loss myself) all the wonder of that relationship is in me forever.

Bless you and take care of you, and let it be just as it feels right. Finding phases. No life will never be the same.

 

[Esterio]

Hi Lionheart777
While we don't know each other I feel your Pain at loosing your Mom. It sounds to me that you were very close. I am sorry you were not able to talk to your Mom before she past. My Mom past away December 2015. It has left a big hole in my heart and life we got very close in the last several years of her life as I became her care giver. I hope you have many good memories to comfort you at this difficult time. Please accept my Sincere Condolences for the loss of your Dear Mom.
Peace be safe

 

[gealach]

Lion I'm so sorry for your loss. Don't try to rush your grief, sometimes you just need to cry. Try to remember something about your mom every day that makes you smile or laugh. :hug: :hug: :hug: we are all here for you