Frustration with t

[trying to heal]

so I had my last session with my current T last Friday as I was leaving her office she said she would call me and organise a transfer appointment with my new T so we could do a bit of hand over stuff before she finishes up and leaves the practice. I waited a week and never heard from her. I called her office on Friday morning and asked if she could be reminded that i was still waiting for her to call me about the appointment. I waited home all day and still no call. She finishes up for good this coming Friday and only works a few days a week. I just feel really frustrated and disappointed and somewhat abandoned which sets off a huge triggering reaction for me as that is all tied up in my cptsd issues.

Also i did a bit of research into the T she wants to transfer me to. The new T does not work with PTSD or with sexual abuse stuff. There are others in the practice who do so im not sure why my T thinks this is a good idea.

It is all just so messy and I feel like im not coping very well with the changes.

 

[agirls]

Can you call the new T and explain your frustrations and concerns? I guess I would try the old T again. I don't know. I would be upset and confused too. I'm sorry.

 

[hithere]

what happened with this situation? Did she ever call you?

 

[trying to heal]

No she never did call back. I ended up calling the office back on the following Monday and found out that I had been transferred to another new psychologist that had just started at the practice and knew nothing about her apart from her name.

I have just finished my first appointment with my new T. She seems nice enough and says she has some training in PTSD and sexual assault but I get the feeling it is just the normal training all psychologists get and is not her speciality. I was so upset right from the start as my case had not been transferred to her at all. She did not know I had been seeing my old T at that practice for more than 16 months and had not been given a handover or my old notes to read. I had to start all over again and rehash all the trauma stuff and now I just feel terrible. I told my old T before she left that I was really anxious about having to start all over again fresh and she assured me that this wouldn't happen and that she would personally give the new T a handover. I just feel really let down, betrayed even. It was so awkward when the new T realised what had happened and she kept apologising for it.

I have another appointment next week and she assures me she will have read through all my old notes by then and have a better understanding of where I am up to.

Do you think I should talk about how upset and hurt I am by my old T? Or should I just let it go and start fresh? I just feel now this whole transfer process has been tarnished and we have gotten off to a bad start.

 

[Nessa7]

I'm going through something with a t that has me hunting for a new one. Hearing a professional say that what happened wasn't okay, even in a really short phone conversation, has helped me feel a little better about the situation. I don't see a new t until Wednesday, but I do think that I want to talk about it with her.

 

[Rumors]

No she never did call back. I ended up calling the office back on the following Monday and found...

I personally would let it go and move on. That is just me though. Life isn't always fair and I wouldn't spend 30 seconds focusing on the old therapist. If you want to integrate that experience in to your healing journey then I think that is great but I certainly wouldn't spend 60 minutes talking about how let down you are. Screw that! She isn't worthy!

 

[hithere]

I personally would bring up what you are feeling. It taps into the trauma and your new relationship with this t will require trust. This is a betrayal and those feelings need healed and processed if you are expected to open your soul to this new person. I don't know what your trauma is, but trauma effects a person in the areas of power, control, and intimacy. You are about to try and start an intimate relationship with this therapist. You had one with your old therapist and she did not do what she said she would do. Or---- did the old t personally hand over notes to the new one and the new one just blew it off and didn't read them? I would hash it out. Trust is huge in this relationship, especially with what just happened with the old one! My therapist is an asshole. I'm trying to walk away from it. The betrayal of trust right now is so huge and yet the "me" who was traumatised wants to cling to the relationship. I have to walk away and be stronger than I have ever been. It almost seems like I have to be stronger than I was during the attacks I endured. Good LUCK. What you are going through hurts... It's like a hurt on top of a hurt

 

[trying to heal]

I personally would bring up what you are feeling. It taps into the trauma and your new relationship wit...

@hithere
Thank you so much for your reply. I hope you are able to find a new helpful T.

I will see my new T and will try and start sorting out some of the hurt im feeling. All of this mayhem has stirred up so much emotions and stress that im just not able to function. Im supposed to be studying for my finals at uni and just barely manage to make it out of bed each day and my self harm habbits are hugely ramped up. I have sores all over my body it's embarrassing to even attempt to go outside and see people even when i do have any energy.

Im booked in to see my uni advisor to let her know what's going on and hopefully get some advice on what to do about the exams i have in a week or so.