Becoming addicted to sexting again....

[WishfulThinking123]

Does anyone else have this problem of just wanting to sext all the time? Selling myself sexually....to guys (well 1 in particular) that doesn't mean crap to me....it feels so comfortable and safe and I just like doing it but then afterwards I always feel bad and dirty I guess but in the moment I like having a guy just looking at me as a sexual object....

 

[Lionheart]

The fact that you always feel bad afterwards tells me that some boundaries may be being crossed and your needs are not being met. Although you are getting your physical needs met, your emotional needs are probably not being met...at least, this was true for me when I was being overly promiscuous.

You want it all the time right? But what is it you are really needing here? attention? love? or just a sexual outlet? If it is just sex, then why do ya feel bad afterwards?

I'm just trying to play Devil's advocate here and get you thinking about things. I had to learn that, for me, I was addicted to being used and abused and that it was not healthy for me nor was it meeting all of my needs.

I hope something I've said here is helpful to you.

 

[WishfulThinking123]

@Lionheart777 I think it is a form of self harm but also a form of avoidance keeps my mind focused on something else... thank you so much for your thought provoking response

 

[Lionheart]

@WishfulThinking123

You are welcome my friend, glad to be of some help.

 

[Deleted member 541]

Self punishment???? I did this too. Not the sexting part, we didn't have that. Yes, I'm old!!!! But I was promiscuous and didn't care. I actually used to say that if others were abusing me, then I would. Sick, but true. It also has a lot to do with low self esteem. CBT therapy may help you with that....

 

[WishfulThinking123]

I actually used to say that if others were abusing me, then I would

I just asked a guy to tell me how he would like to hurt me during sex...I just don't know what else...I just hate myself at this point

 

[Friday]

...I just don't know what else...I just hate myself at this point

So if you remove the SIM from your phone and snap it in half*... What other distractions & stress relieving & coping mechanisms can you use?

((I'm always surprised when people don't know this, but even a completely inactive phone, as long as it has a live battery in it, can always dial & reach 911 emergency services. Any mobile phone. Never activated, Inactive, shut off for non-payment, doesn't matter. If it can power on, it can call for help.))

 

[WishfulThinking123]

@Friday I guess I should try to exercise more like pushups and sit ups...try to go outside for a walk

 

[Friday]

@WishfulThinking123

When I'm substituting self-harm/distraction I usually have a short list of things I love & things I despise. So that if I want to feel good I can do A, but if I want to punish myself -but not feel bad about it afterwards- I can do B.

 

[WishfulThinking123]

So that if I want to feel good I can do A, but if I want to punish myself -but not feel bad about it afterwards- I can do B.

Wow I never considered doing the "B" list before thanks for the suggestion!

 

[Ramona1979]

Does anyone else have this problem of just wanting to sext all the time? Selling myself sexu...

I'm here

 

[Ramona1979]

Same things...just to keep my mind occupied