I Swear Shes f*cking With Me.

[Rezdawg]

Every damn day. Your like talking to a wall. Your a giant ball of misery. (I laughed when I heard that one) We're not married were roommates. All I hear about your day is complaining. Yet when I do tell her of my day and try and be descriptive I get waved at and told it too much info(I'm a thief(mechanic)) so I just end it with I fixed cars and were both happier the conversation is over.

I swear she's gone and researched cptsd cause she uses just the right words, order and descriptors to be reading it out of a book. I'd swear she's waiting for just the right time to say "your f*cked, I'm out. I'm taking the kids cause your a mess"

Am I peranoid? Or just f*cked? Or really really f*cked......

 

[The Hermit King]

Man how many times has a woman told me we were like roommates and I have a wall up. A shit ton, maybe we are f*cked brother. Or maybe I have just been with really needy/clingy women since the Army. I don't know anymore.

 

[Ned]

Well, with CPTSD you are empowered to be all three.
She probably has been reading up on it, mate, trying to understand. So the buzz-words will come out.
Your woman is angry because she still can't truly understand it. And it takes a while and a lot of effort to accept that.
Part of the rough ride, worse luck. All sounds familiar. As far as telling her about the day goes, start with a sitrep on you.
If you have a less-shit-than-usual day, say so, 'today was OK'. You might even get asked why. Hey Presto, conversation...
If you're in lock-down, tell her. Then at least she knows she's talking to the wall.
It is very hard to get across how much there is to fix, it's not like the films, and it's never going to be fully understood or well handled by someone who hasn't been there.
Stick with it Rezdawg.

 

[Zipperhead]

Morning Rez. If she cared enough to do some reading, be happy. Now get into the clinic and start working on you. When you are in a better place, she will be too.

 

[JarHed]

Now get into the clinic and start working on you. When you are in a better place, she will be too.

Yup, Zip's spot on there.

I think that we sometimes are so focused on the shit we have to deal with that it's easy to forget what our significant other is dealing with. It's pretty hard on them, they don't understand, how could they. Hope it get's better for ya' Bro.

Jar

 

[Wagon]

Just put it on the list Redzdawg. I'm struggling with same same but different type of shit. Would love to unleash on the Ex. Blow that bridge sky high.

Problem is. I have not cracked the Beast. If you are able to distinguish what rage is the beast and what is justifiable annoyance, you may be able to either play the game or express a legitimate gripe. But if the beast comes along for the ride. Well.....you're f*cked. You'll never regain that ground.

Thats why I sit and simmer in my own juices for awhile...work on that big twisted wire ball of rage. Yeah, it's hell, but we've all seen worse hell and it ain't that. So you might as well work on it.

 

[Jimmy1]

Every damn day. Your like talking to a wall. Your a giant ball of misery. (I laughed when I heard that one) We're not married were roommates. All I hear about your day is complaining. Yet when I do tell her of my day and try and be descriptive I get waved at and told it too much info(I'm a thief(mechanic)) so I just end it with I fixed cars and were both happier the conversation is over.

I swear she's gone and researched cptsd cause she uses just the right words, order and descriptors to be reading it out of a book. I'd swear she's waiting for just the right time to say "your f*cked, I'm out. I'm taking the kids cause your a mess"

Am I peranoid? Or just f*cked? Or really really f*cked......

Rez, you have to also take it from where she stands.

Could you imagine what it is like for her. I take it you were together before you went away.
If so, your not the person she once was and she is probably angry at the world. Your not the person she chose to have kids with and she is trying to come to terms with that. It's not your fault and it's not hers.
A lot of women turn tail and run straight away once they find out what it is. Mine did. Now I have a new one.

 

[Rezdawg]

Thanks everyone. It's nice to have a place to come and scream and shout about everything and nothing. I will stick with this and f*cking destroy it as well. Just waiting for first clinic appointment.

I'm truly thankful my wife has stuck this out. There has been some close calls though. We talked some shit this morning and got some of it hashed out better.

Side note. Job interview Monday. Hopefully goes well and fixing cars can blow me.

 

[reddevil1111]

Rez,
Watch your back. I had plenty of little warning signs and missed them by chalking them up to aw its me not her. But she was planning to destroy me in every manner and she tried to her best ability. I know we are not in the same relationship, I am only saying if it feels like it it could be. Watch your six and keep the ammo in hand brother.

 

[Rezdawg]

Oh I watch my back. I think we all do(from the sounds I it) a little too much. I hope my wife sticks this out. We'll see I guess

 

[Jimmy1]

My advice would be to watch your back too, as I like a lot of people with PTSD thought everything was just rosy, only to have them find another man. The fear of someone leaving me is still there with my new marriage, even though the only reason she would leave would be if I slept with someone else, or I hit her, and there is fat chance of that.

Some partners go the wrong way about it, but you can't blame them. They watch this big strong man of theirs return home not the person they used to be. And then after investigating, they find out they are not going to ever be that person again, so you can't really blame them.

As I have said a million times, it take a person with very thick skin to survive in a relationship with someone with PTSD, and they need an out too. We talk on here about video games, and working on cars, or going to the gym when we feel stressed. Our partners need to find someone to talk to as well an outlet, otherwise things will build and build and then they walk.

Communications is the number one thing. I am already over apologizing for myself. Every second day at the moment I screw the pooch and say nasty things. I don't mean it, it just happens.

Good luck mate. Talk to your wife. Ask her if she needs some information. Print out some of these documents and give them to her.

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[PuppyLove]

Every damn day. Your like talking to a wall. Your a giant ball of misery. (I laughed when I heard that one) We're not married were roommates. All I hear about your day is complaining. Yet when I do tell her of my day and try and be descriptive I get waved at and told it too much info(I'm a thief(mechanic)) so I just end it with I fixed cars and were both happier the conversation is over.

I swear she's gone and researched cptsd cause she uses just the right words, order and descriptors to be reading it out of a book. I'd swear she's waiting for just the right time to say "your f*cked, I'm out. I'm taking the kids cause your a mess"

Am I peranoid? Or just f*cked? Or really really f*cked......

Just a sign that she cares and is making moves to understand the crap even we don't understand.