Sexual humor is fine, degrading women is not. And no this is not normal guy talk (as some in our current admin would like us to think,) not outside of high school,possibly college when pple are still trying to fit in. As men who are raised to respect women get older they don't degrade women. Again a general sex joke is one thing, talking about their exes and spouses or anybody disrespectfully is another. Btw, I really used to think that this was how men normally treated women til i started hanging around men who were actually taught to respect women. I've witnessed on more than one occasion them call other guys out and say that's really not cool. But then again I've lived in cities, am youngish and run with a more progressive crowd so I may be insulated from the a-holes and older guys raised in the days where degrading women was par for the course.
That said, it's fine to be annoyed at inappropriate behavior, it's fine to call pple out on it and ask them to stop, it's fine to complain to someone in authority. What does kind of jump out to me from your post is "if i tolerate and allow this to happen." You really have no say over what anyone does. You can complain to authority and they may or may not remove them next time. If you ask the men to stop, they may say no and speak louder. The only behavior you can choose is your own. So do what is in your control, which you seem to have done and then let it go. If it continues you can remove yourself from the situation or possibly complain again. But end of day if it's something that you can't change, it's up to you to learn to live with it without it making you miserable day in and day out. Like the serenity prayer- to accept the things i cannot change, the courage to change the ones i can, the wisdom to know the difference.
You can reframe it a million ways. Like alba said, You can feel appreciation for them giving you a patience exercise, or an assertiveness exercise if you want to say something if it happens again, it can be a distraction exercise where you learn how to choose your focus, etc. (lol if it were me since i'm learning not to numb out and feel my feelings I'd appreciate the chance to feel miserable and not numb out!) I guess all this to say, do what you can, but if the behavior doesn't change you still have control over your responses. Hope you're not in the situation again though, sounds annoying.
