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what if I got accused of it for being skinny and they took me? I don't have body dsymorphia and think I'm fat
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mumstheword
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You do get that this is irrational thinking don't you?
This is the illness, caused by your past abuse, talking.
I get it. I suffer that way too. I hide in my house because I don't want to be seen in my town, or even outside of it. I don't go for walks anymore, unless they are in the next town over, because of what sexual abuse and a controlling person did to me.
I get how abuse over many years makes us irrational.
I don't think the weight losing will fix things. I tried that. I did that until I was 33, between having babies. It made me sicker and it slowed my.recovery. It also messed up my metabolism in the long term. Semi-starvation causes all sorts of problems.
I do get that being sexual abused and controlled does that though. I really do. I really think you need to see someone who specialises in childhood sexual trauma. That is at the root of your pain and anxiety and obsessive-compulsive issues. I know because I've experienced it too and I've just started to see a early childhood sexual abuse councellor who also specialises in disordered eating (or lack of eating).
Cutting calories will stress out your body and mind more. You will probably become obsessed with food. Even.healthy non-eating- disordered people become obsessed with food when they embark on a semi-starvation diet. Tests have been done. Hunger urges often become uncontrollable. Emotional mood swings become worse. It's a recipe for A LOT more problems in the future to semi-starve and try to be underweight.
I'm now overweight because of my self-serving obsession with being always thinner and semi-starved for years between childbirth.
Bodies have a way of winning no matter how hard we try to control them. My body doesn't trust me and goes into cortisol uncontrollable hunger and extreme tiredness to store fat now, as I starved it for too many years. So you might get to the body weight you want to be but later on, if you semi-starve, you will pay the price and with your poor bodies survival reactions to bring deprived of adequate food. I got severe malnutritionment. I even got psychosis because of severe b12 deficiency, so be careful. Weight loss will not fix your trauma and abuse damage. It will add to your problems, believe me. I've lived it. I'm nearly 45 now and I'm really not well because of focusing on weight and deprivation for years instead of addressing my trauma and abuse damage. And I'm now about 20kg overweight. The bodies revenge and survival counter-reaction from too much food deprivation for so long.
Pleas be careful, get some good support and supervision around safe weight management and get some good therapy to address your PTSD issues around the abuse and control you experienced. I'm worried about you. I don't want you to suffer like I have so long. You've been through so much already. Take care. You deserve good care and good support, not all this terrible anxiety and more suffering without treatment.
This is the illness, caused by your past abuse, talking.
I get it. I suffer that way too. I hide in my house because I don't want to be seen in my town, or even outside of it. I don't go for walks anymore, unless they are in the next town over, because of what sexual abuse and a controlling person did to me.
I get how abuse over many years makes us irrational.
I don't think the weight losing will fix things. I tried that. I did that until I was 33, between having babies. It made me sicker and it slowed my.recovery. It also messed up my metabolism in the long term. Semi-starvation causes all sorts of problems.
I do get that being sexual abused and controlled does that though. I really do. I really think you need to see someone who specialises in childhood sexual trauma. That is at the root of your pain and anxiety and obsessive-compulsive issues. I know because I've experienced it too and I've just started to see a early childhood sexual abuse councellor who also specialises in disordered eating (or lack of eating).
Cutting calories will stress out your body and mind more. You will probably become obsessed with food. Even.healthy non-eating- disordered people become obsessed with food when they embark on a semi-starvation diet. Tests have been done. Hunger urges often become uncontrollable. Emotional mood swings become worse. It's a recipe for A LOT more problems in the future to semi-starve and try to be underweight.
I'm now overweight because of my self-serving obsession with being always thinner and semi-starved for years between childbirth.
Bodies have a way of winning no matter how hard we try to control them. My body doesn't trust me and goes into cortisol uncontrollable hunger and extreme tiredness to store fat now, as I starved it for too many years. So you might get to the body weight you want to be but later on, if you semi-starve, you will pay the price and with your poor bodies survival reactions to bring deprived of adequate food. I got severe malnutritionment. I even got psychosis because of severe b12 deficiency, so be careful. Weight loss will not fix your trauma and abuse damage. It will add to your problems, believe me. I've lived it. I'm nearly 45 now and I'm really not well because of focusing on weight and deprivation for years instead of addressing my trauma and abuse damage. And I'm now about 20kg overweight. The bodies revenge and survival counter-reaction from too much food deprivation for so long.
Pleas be careful, get some good support and supervision around safe weight management and get some good therapy to address your PTSD issues around the abuse and control you experienced. I'm worried about you. I don't want you to suffer like I have so long. You've been through so much already. Take care. You deserve good care and good support, not all this terrible anxiety and more suffering without treatment.
LuckiLee
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These are questions for a therapist. You don't want to accept any type of response.
Best wishes to you.
Best wishes to you.
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I am scared someone could get guardianship of me for 500 pounds too..i just haven't seen stories about it yet..only the anorexic one
I just want to look fat or thin,,whatever I want and someone get guardianship of me..to either force weight gain or weight loss in a treatment center
if I can choose to get a tubal u would think I could chose that
I don't think people understand what I'm saying...I'm afraid someone can get adult guardianship of me if I'm too fat or I'm I'm too skinny..and could say I'm at risk to my self..and win me...then could take me to a treatment center to either gain or lose weight,,i just want to b in control of my body.
I just want to look fat or thin,,whatever I want and someone get guardianship of me..to either force weight gain or weight loss in a treatment center
if I can choose to get a tubal u would think I could chose that
I don't think people understand what I'm saying...I'm afraid someone can get adult guardianship of me if I'm too fat or I'm I'm too skinny..and could say I'm at risk to my self..and win me...then could take me to a treatment center to either gain or lose weight,,i just want to b in control of my body.
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Everyone gets what you're saying. You're not getting what anyone else is saying.
I also think it's best people quit replying so that the questions burn so deep inside you that you will have no choice but to ask a therapist... who can actually help you.
This seems partly for attention also...
I also think it's best people quit replying so that the questions burn so deep inside you that you will have no choice but to ask a therapist... who can actually help you.
This seems partly for attention also...
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thanks.understandable
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guys I cant get over that I can b as skinny or fat as I want and ill b ok!!! no guardianship......I cant comprehend I wont get in trouble
i have an obsessional fear that something will happen to me even though that "something" is not likely to happen. It's a form of ocd. The spikes are so intense and the fear is outrageous. This sounds trite but it's true. Just be brave. Brave doesn't mean you won't have fear. Brave means doing the thing and yet being in fear. Eventually your brain will calm down. Just put one foot in front of the other. Go get a drink. Wear what you want. Eat what you want. Just say, "oh, hello there fear. that's you again to scare me with these feelings." The other thing I do is go ahead and say, "f*ck it" if it happens, it happens. I will deal with it. I will not die. it won't be a catastrophe. There are advocates out out there. I will use all the resources available to fight back. Or, maybe I'll just give in and take it? who knows what I'll do? But the world is not going to end if the thing I'm terrified of happens. Ask yourself what is important about this issue. I think the disease of ocd is so fascinating that the very thing we most value is the very thing that it attacks us with. The other thing is I'm doing IFS therapy. Maybe a part is stuck in the past and doesn't know it's free. Try talking to the part of you that's afraid of this happening. Ask it tell you about itself. Then tell it what year it is now and what is going on in your life now. Ask the part to have another job in your life--how can that part help you and all the parts without being in such a state of alarm and warning. There may be another way it can help.
Neverthesame
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No. They cannot get guardianship of you because of a few vanity pounds.
No. They cannot get guardianship of you because you aren't harming yourself with food, booze, dope, sex or gambling.
No. They cannot get guardianship of you because you have a drink every now and again.
No. They cannot get guardianship of you because it happened to someone else with totally different life circumstances than you.
No. They cannot get guardianship of you because you aren't a threat to yourself or others.
No. They cannot get guardianship of you because you choose your own wardrobe.
No. They cannot get guardianship of you because you have effectively proven that you are able to handle the everyday stresses of being a wife and mother.
No. They cannot get guardianship of you because it would be idiotic to pay out the nose for a lawyer over a case they can't possibly win.
No. They cannot get guardianship of you because seeing a therapist is a responsible adult way of managing your psychological issues. The kind of thing that people who can care for themselves do for themselves.
No. They cannot get guardianship of you because you know your own name, address, date of birth, age, zip code, the current calendar date and social security number.
No. They cannot get guardianship of you because it's bloody obvious you don't need one.
You know who does need a guardian? Anyone who thinks you need a guardian.
No. They cannot get guardianship of you because you aren't harming yourself with food, booze, dope, sex or gambling.
No. They cannot get guardianship of you because you have a drink every now and again.
No. They cannot get guardianship of you because it happened to someone else with totally different life circumstances than you.
No. They cannot get guardianship of you because you aren't a threat to yourself or others.
No. They cannot get guardianship of you because you choose your own wardrobe.
No. They cannot get guardianship of you because you have effectively proven that you are able to handle the everyday stresses of being a wife and mother.
No. They cannot get guardianship of you because it would be idiotic to pay out the nose for a lawyer over a case they can't possibly win.
No. They cannot get guardianship of you because seeing a therapist is a responsible adult way of managing your psychological issues. The kind of thing that people who can care for themselves do for themselves.
No. They cannot get guardianship of you because you know your own name, address, date of birth, age, zip code, the current calendar date and social security number.
No. They cannot get guardianship of you because it's bloody obvious you don't need one.
You know who does need a guardian? Anyone who thinks you need a guardian.
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how do I know it wont happen.....?? when there is a story about an anorexic girl who they took to court? I don't want to b anorexic but I'm afraid ill get in trouble for being too fat or too thin...I don't want my rights taken..i never commited a crime..so y should I b treated like one..i don't even know if the parents would have won but the fact they got that far is scarry
my worse fear is I wont b free again..and I see this as the only way it could happen
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@ab1995 - are you currently in need of medical intervention for your anorexia?
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