Advice needed please!!
I’ll try and keep this as brief as I can, I met a guy a year ago, who never hid the fact he had PTSD due to a number of reasons but the main one being he was hit head on while on a bike, he had to learn to walk and talk again and said weeks after this he felt like he had no emotions and just didn’t care, this was 5 yrs ago,
His behaviour cost him he s marriage to which he ended up attempting his own life and being sectioned.
I was uneducated about what PTSD really is and from meeting him in the January till the end of May I hadn’t noticed anything until we was meant to be attending a wedding, he ignored my calls and I contacted his mum out of concern, who was worried about this, she contacted the hospital and that’s where he was, he had gone by himself, turns out he hadn’t attended work for the last few days and the worry of attending a wedding had brought on a suicide attempt. He was sectioned again and I stood by him, he stayed with me after being discharged, things was fine for a few weeks until he went to his “dark place” as he called it again and left to stay at his mums house while she was on holiday. I went to visit him and he said he didn’t feel he was in a place for a relationship and that he had to go back to square one, which although upset me I knew it was best for him, I was prepared to walk away, but he contacted me a few days later and said, I cannot walk away I’m crazy about you, yet again we was ok-ish until a few weeks before Christmas, he went back to his mums and cut contract for a few days, said he was having his Christmas wobble now, which I do understand, then four nights in a row he said he was coming to see me then had a excuse that he couldn’t, just before Christmas I discovered I was pregnant, it was hard keeping this to myself but I knew he was down, his son was due to visit and I didn’t want to add any pressure on him, a week later I suffered a miscarriage, fast forward 3 weeks and I’d still heard nothing from him so I returned his belongings, my plan was to leave them on his mums backdoor, didn’t go to plan as he was in the garden. He asked me if I was ok like nothing had ever happened, I told him about the miscarriage and he actually asked me if I was making it up, my god that hurt me, he then said sorry right away, he knows I’d never do anything like that. But yet again when on to say he isn’t in a place for a relationship, that he’s been doing everything that people expected from him, that hurt to, but as I was leaving he said there was things he needed to say but he needed to digest our conversation first, that was a few days ago, I text him today to ask if he had, had time to do this , I felt the response I got deflated me “ not really feeling great tbh”
Things really don’t add up, in the last year I’ve been with him I’ve never met his son, instead of staying at my 3 bed house they stayed at his mums 1 bed bungalow, ???
How can anyone say their feeling great after being told their partner has lost a child??
Although he said he wasn’t ready for a relationship etc, he had put in text leading up to Christmas that he was sorry he was down and it wasn’t that he didn’t want to see me it’s just he couldn’t seem to get out the dark place, he missed me, was looking forward to seeing me.
Am I just completely wasting my time with this guy ???
I’ll try and keep this as brief as I can, I met a guy a year ago, who never hid the fact he had PTSD due to a number of reasons but the main one being he was hit head on while on a bike, he had to learn to walk and talk again and said weeks after this he felt like he had no emotions and just didn’t care, this was 5 yrs ago,
His behaviour cost him he s marriage to which he ended up attempting his own life and being sectioned.
I was uneducated about what PTSD really is and from meeting him in the January till the end of May I hadn’t noticed anything until we was meant to be attending a wedding, he ignored my calls and I contacted his mum out of concern, who was worried about this, she contacted the hospital and that’s where he was, he had gone by himself, turns out he hadn’t attended work for the last few days and the worry of attending a wedding had brought on a suicide attempt. He was sectioned again and I stood by him, he stayed with me after being discharged, things was fine for a few weeks until he went to his “dark place” as he called it again and left to stay at his mums house while she was on holiday. I went to visit him and he said he didn’t feel he was in a place for a relationship and that he had to go back to square one, which although upset me I knew it was best for him, I was prepared to walk away, but he contacted me a few days later and said, I cannot walk away I’m crazy about you, yet again we was ok-ish until a few weeks before Christmas, he went back to his mums and cut contract for a few days, said he was having his Christmas wobble now, which I do understand, then four nights in a row he said he was coming to see me then had a excuse that he couldn’t, just before Christmas I discovered I was pregnant, it was hard keeping this to myself but I knew he was down, his son was due to visit and I didn’t want to add any pressure on him, a week later I suffered a miscarriage, fast forward 3 weeks and I’d still heard nothing from him so I returned his belongings, my plan was to leave them on his mums backdoor, didn’t go to plan as he was in the garden. He asked me if I was ok like nothing had ever happened, I told him about the miscarriage and he actually asked me if I was making it up, my god that hurt me, he then said sorry right away, he knows I’d never do anything like that. But yet again when on to say he isn’t in a place for a relationship, that he’s been doing everything that people expected from him, that hurt to, but as I was leaving he said there was things he needed to say but he needed to digest our conversation first, that was a few days ago, I text him today to ask if he had, had time to do this , I felt the response I got deflated me “ not really feeling great tbh”
Things really don’t add up, in the last year I’ve been with him I’ve never met his son, instead of staying at my 3 bed house they stayed at his mums 1 bed bungalow, ???
How can anyone say their feeling great after being told their partner has lost a child??
Although he said he wasn’t ready for a relationship etc, he had put in text leading up to Christmas that he was sorry he was down and it wasn’t that he didn’t want to see me it’s just he couldn’t seem to get out the dark place, he missed me, was looking forward to seeing me.
Am I just completely wasting my time with this guy ???
