I have a hard time being female

[EveHarrington]

I think this is all being stirred up because of the marches across America today.

I have a hard time being female.

I just now made a number of female friends for the first time in a number of years. Things are going well so far, although I feel like I’m in uncharted territory.

I didn’t stop hating my body until recently. I hated getting my period because it was a reminder that I’m female, and it made me feel disgusting. I am finally to the point where I am not trying to destroy my body with some kind of fad diet or another, or gaining weight to avoid all attention. I have lost some weight, and I can finally say I like my body, even though it’s not perfect.

I don’t know quite what I’m asking for here. Maybe people to say I’m not alone? All I know is that I feel very out of sorts after reading about the marches, and I know it has something to do with me not liking being a woman.

It may take me some time to reply. I feel so out of sorts. Thanks.

 

[Teasel]

I felt just as you describe when I was younger, relate to hating my body, not wanting periods or breasts when I was young and always preferred male company.

Though it wasn't in every way that I hated bring a girl I loved dolls for eg.

As I've gotten older, I experienced so much abuse from men that I've become quite the feminist, love women and am definitely more comfortable with being a woman.

Not got any helpfull suggestions. But I do relate.
I wonder if I didn't want to be female cause of the abuse and making a connection that it was being female that brought that on me. Don't know.

 

[Ronin]

May or may not be useful - Feeling bad about this or that about your body doesn't have to be connected to how you feel about your gender nor about how you perform socially in any respect?

They're separate, even if highly connected, things. So figuring if it's 'being female', or just some bodily processes that mess with you, or how society treats people where you are, may help you pin point what exactly you need to work on, and how.

 

[EveHarrington]

May or may not be useful - Feeling bad about this or that about your body doesn't have to be connected to...

Yes, I am waaaay past this point. It IS about being uncomfortable with being female. Sorry my examples weren’t up to par for you.

I find your response to be incredibly invalidating to someone who has struggled with being female.

As a male you cannot even begin to comprehend this issue.

 

[Sideways]

As a male you cannot even begin to comprehend this issue.

Why is that?

 

[EveHarrington]

Listen, I’m not here to argue with people.

I was looking for a little SUPPORT, not an argument.

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