Resilience

[saraemerald]

This os something I am noticing lacking in ppl's recovery. Some of us have such a strong resilience we can get through anything! But sometimes this resilience sucks so bad because we don't want to have to be strong and resilient all the time to get through everything. It means sometimes, we have to put up with more than we want to "because we are so strong"! f*ck that! I don't want to be strong all the time! I am a normal human being with feelings! Right!? So let me, for God's sake! To have feelings!!!

 

[MyWillow]

Oh my this resonates. I said to my T a few months back after we’d done a shit load of grounding after a flashback (these only happen in therapy) that resilience is totally overrated. I have a good job, people perceive me as successful and are just not comfortable when I’m struggling. Even my partner. I’ve been had people say to me “oh but you’re so resilient. You’ll be fine.”

 

[ladee]

Taking a break from the relentless learning and unlearning we have to do.. IS resilience..!!!! Just letting our self scream and cry and pound the wall, and say to hell with it for awhile.... that IS resilience. Giving our self permission to be human.... that all by itself is growth....

I get this 1000%.... I do get soul weary from being 'strong'.... so once in awhile, and more here lately... I just give myself permission to NOT do all this for awhile... then I have the energy to get back on that dead horse and go at it again.

 

[Deleted member 541]

@saraemerald The resounding theme in many of your post lately screams, for me at least “depression”. I do get what you’re saying, I really do. Yet, I know where you’re at isn’t a healthy place either. I’ve been there too. It’s bleak with so much helplessness.

Yup, it’s hard to keep fighting daily, sometimes at an hour by hour thing. I know too, how easy it is to just give up and give into it.

I guess you just need to pick your battle and choose which one you’re going to go for. Not easy, I know!!!

 

[shatter eyes]

I hear you. I feel you.

I too am told same and feel my resilience has people thinking i dont need help or support because i can get thru but i cant.. its tiring. And more tiring trying to advocate i need rest.

 

[Freida]

I hate the whole "strong and resilience" thing. Y'know why? Because to get that label you had to have been thru some serious shit and still been able to move forward with your life. I think sometimes I would prefer wimpy and fragile, with the biggest obstacle I face is trying to pick out a nail color

 

[saraemerald]

I hate the whole "strong and resilience" thing. Y'know why? Because to get that label you had to have be...

Exactly! Been through enough shit. Don't wanna be strong to endure anymore

 

[shatter eyes]

We all been given a very very big mission to breathe yet not allowed to exhale and sigh.

 

[ladee]

And that is when resilience comes home to us.. we give our self permission to exhale and sigh....

 

[Rani G2]

We all been given a very very big mission to breathe yet not allowed to exhale and...

Beautifully said...

If I am living in a society that is exploitative, racist, oppressive then I wouldnt want to be a part of that society which means also that I would want to bring that kind of resellience to "fit in" and adapt


*that I wouldnt want to bring that kind of resellience to "fit in" and adapt...


Sry

 

[saraemerald]

And that is when resilience comes home to us.. we give our self permission to exhale and sigh....

Thankyou @ladee

Beautifully said...

If I am living in a society that is exploitative, racist, oppressive then I wouldn...

Exactly!!! This is what I am referring to in this thread

 

[shatter eyes]

And that is when resilience comes home to us.. we give our self permission to exhale and sigh....

How do we give permission to exhale and sigh? How do you do it and in what forms?

I dont know how or what it means to do that? I like to learn