Desperate - therapist disclosed csa to mother

[littleoc]

it made me cry. I am safe

You’re right I need to remember that their are good people in the world that I can trust.

Hugs and I hope you have an easy time finding those good people for now on <3

 

[Deleted member 541]

Stand your ground if she contacts you, and please report this person, even if she is a friend of your mothers, she needs to be reported..... And..... Tell your psychiatrist what she has done!!!! Take care!!!

 

[Deleted member 34328]

Wow!

I really don't know what to comment, but just want to add my support. It would be important to me to feel validated and supported - even if I don't know anyone.

You're welcome and safe here.

 

[Emotional girl]

My thoughts are with you.It looks like your therapist has done the one thing they shouldn't do which is to breach your trust.
I think you are doing the right thing by not going back again and I hope that you are able to move forward and trust again with a new therapist.

 

[Suzetig]

I am going to wait it out and see if she contacts me when I don’t turn up to my appointment, see what excuses she makes for her actions and then go from there x

I understand the drive to wait it out however, what happens if she doesn't contact you. Some Ts won't chase you up if you miss an appointment and I'm guessing you'd see this as proof that she doesn't care about you or what she did etc. This isn't really a time to test out your relationship with her.

If she had concerns about safety she had a duty to contact professionals to support you, by telling a mutual friend she has acted unethically.

Is she part of a clinic or service or dies she work in private practice? Is she's in a service setting I'd complain directly to the service manager. If she's in private practice I would write to her explaining how unhappy you are with what she did and asking for her qualifications, who her registering body is and letting her know you plan to complain to them. Unless of course you don't plan to complain - not everyone does.

I'm not sure what you hope to gain by the ghosting, waiting and excusing thing. It seems to me that the relationship ended when she gossiped about you - I'd not be giving her another chance on that front.

 

[scout86]

I have to agree with @Suzetig . The ghosting thing is sort of passive aggressive and I don't think you need to go that route. You're in the right here, stand up for yourself and challenge her on what she did. There may have been times in the past when you couldn't stand up for yourself, but you can do it now. Anger has a purpose. It's the emotion whose job is to keep other people from running over the top of us. Let yours do it's job.

And, become a member & stick around, we'd be glad to have you!

 

[Star76]

I have to agree with @Suzetig . The ghosting thing is sort of passive aggressive and...

Thank you all for your kindness and ideas. Scout86 I would agree with you that it is probably a slightly passive aggressive thing to do but I find it hard to express my anger to others directly - but I will definitely think about contacting her about it. Suzetig Her policy states that she will make contact after a missed appointment so my hope is that she will make contact with me and apologise although this might be wishful thinking on my part and you're right I will feel hurt if she doesn't make contact. With regards to making a formal complaint I have written everything down including dates and will think about it.

 

[Suzetig]

Does she know that her friend passed the info to your mum? She may have no idea that you know she breached your confidentiality - it sounds like you expect her to know you're upset with her, and why, just from a missed appointment?

 

[hithere]

If it were me, I'd hire an attorney, and sue her ass, I'd report her to her licensing board, and state. I would seriously ghost her. Take some control back. What a violation of your trust. I am so sorry. I would be a wreck. so angry. This is not a "mistake!" She is supposed to speak to NO ONE about you or what you share, unless your life or another life is in danger. This is a woman with NO values and NO self-control--and she should NOT be counseling people about trauma. She needs reported! She can do serious damage to patient.

 

[Neverthesame]

Just want to mention, while it's a good thing to encourage Star76 to report this therapist, doing so is going to be a very stressful ordeal. Especially if it ends up being disputed before a magistrate.
They should only do so if they feel they are in a place to take up that burden.


@Star76 If you are just not in a place to do so at this time, there's no shame in it. You need to look out for your health, first and foremost.

Wishing you the best, whatever you decide to do.

 

[EveHarrington]

I wouldn’t play passive aggressive.

You’ll just end up with a bill for the missed session.

 

[Star76]

I have cancelled my session with her on Wednesday. I am going to leave it for a while and then when I am settled and don’t feel as vulnerable as I do now I will ask to talk to her about it. X