Bad person didn't stop it

[Victory]

Yes, and I've recently read that the reason why we think that is to assure ourselves that we have control over any future abusive situations. Boy, I hope they're right...about having control over any future situations because I'm all abused out for this lifetime.

 

[EveHarrington]

I am going to say something to this: I am the same way, in that my humor streak is so strong, that in...

Yes you can have this approach to life but eventually everyone will avoid you and you’ll end up alone.

Pissing off everyone is fun...until it isn’t.

 

[shimmerz]

I am going to say that if you could have gotten away you would have. Adult or child.

The thing is that abusers work hard on controlling the perception of their victims. There seems to me to be this element of 'if you do anything but take this you'll get more'. It is a dance, imho, that victims haven't been told the steps for.

 

[Victory]

"I am going to say that if you could have gotten away you would have. Adult or child. "
Well that sums it up. Thank you!

 

[Sweetleaf]

Yes you can have this approach to life but eventually everyone will avoid you and you’ll end up alone.

Pissing off everyone is fun...until it isn’t.

Why would I be mean to everyone? Lmao

 

[Rose White]

It’s weird—I have a memory from when I was approximately four months old. A csa memory. And it’s a body memory.

My shoulders feel guilty for not being able to roll me over to prevent my dad from doing what he did.

My shoulders. Feel guilty.

That’s how much I want to control the abuse.

Obviously an infant can do nothing to prevent an adult from doing what they want.

But my body MUST take control, in order to escape it, there has to be a maybe.

 

[katz]

I had been abused from the beginning of life. I was very young and never learned that I could have left. So, even when I grew up and was old enough to leave, I didn't. :(

 

[Mee]

I am going to say that if you could have gotten away you would have. Adult or child.

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Oh. Oh. I wish I could claim this. There were three gruesome weeks where my eyes were open and I didn’t wang to go. At all.

The confusion over this is tortuous often.

 

[Chris-duck]

I don't have anything useful to add to this. But I feel like this a lot. Like I deny feeling like it was my fault because I agree nobody should harm anyone else but I feel like if I knew something bad was about to happen I should have avoided it somehow.

 

[DharmaGirl]

I tried to get away when I was a child. I told a neighbor when I was 6. When I was 9, I told the principal of my school who responded with, "That doesn't happen in nice families". It was a private school. I know I asked for help more times, but I don't remember at the moment. I couldn't have done anything else.

 

[shimmerz]

I told a neighbor when I was 6. When I was 9, I told the principal of my school

That's the thing right? Damned if you do and damned if you don't.

People don't want to know/deal with this stuff. Best to 'mind my own business'. That was a big saying back in the day.

 

[ILoveLife]

Best to 'mind my own business'

Nowadays is 'you do you', as if there's no social involvement whatsoever for living in society.