What does it mean to be trustworthy?

[Gs172003]

What does it mean to you?

 

[alt]

What does it mean to you?

Good question!

For me I guess it means - Keeping promises as much as possible, keeping secrets, generally being careful with other's emotions and lives, and if one has to disappoint somebody, be as considerate as one can. Being stable emotionally and mentally is probably also in there as an ingredient.

 

[Gs172003]

Good question!

For me I guess it means - Keeping promises as much as possible, keeping secrets, g...

Sounds like my definition too

 

[Still Standing]

Trustworthy=being worthy of trust.

Do they lie, cheat, gossip, hurt, disregard others, betray confidences, gossip, are nosey, abusive, are self-centered, combative, blames everyone else, takes no responsibility for themselves...anything that demeans, hurts, or promotes self, etc is not worth my trust.

A trustworthy person is someone who holds a confidence, can be trusted with someone else's money, is compassionate and interested in the well-being of others, respects and honors others, is kind and listens well etc.

 

[scout86]

Consistent? It doesn't mean "perfect".

For example, I have a friend whose awesome in a lot of ways, but she gets distracted and forgets stuff. I can count on her to go an extra mile for me NOW, but i won't ask about next week, because she might forget. Not because she doesn't care, just because she IS that way. I have another friend I've literally trusted with my life, but I wouldn't count on him to call me back, because I know he might or might not. Doesn't mean I can't trust him to do what he can to keep me from getting killed by a horse. Just means he's not great with phone calls. In both cases, they are people I've come to believe won't, deliberately, do anything to hurt me. They actually care about that.

 

[alt]

won't, deliberately, do anything to hurt

I like that definition.

 

[Suzetig]

people I've come to believe won't, deliberately, do anything to hurt me.

I like this too and, for me, people who believe the same about me - eg that I wouldn’t deliberately do anything to hurt them, so that disagreements or difficulties can be openly spoken about and resolved.

So basically, that they come from a good place in their interactions with me and that they know I come from a good place with them.

 

[MrMoonlight]

What does it mean to be trustworthy?

I really fight my black and white thinking on this question.

When I give it, it's complete so maybe that is an unrealistic expectation when deciding who in my life is worthy of it.

 

[Gs172003]

I like this too and, for me, people who believe the same about me - eg that I wouldn’t deliberately d...

How do you know?

 

[Suzetig]

That’s the problem, you don’t always know. This exact issue has caused a huge rift in my relationship with someone I thought I was close to recently but it highlighted for me the importance of goodwill on both sides.

 

[EveHarrington]

I am pretty untrustworthy given that I have to cancel out on so many things at the last minute. I’ve given up on being trustworthy as my PTSD says no, not happening.