Ice_Fire
MyPTSD Pro
As some of you may know, I lost my Nan about 6 months ago (christ!) and we had to clear her flat. My Dad was fairly ruthless, me less so. I kept a case of things and I'm now going through it. Thing is, there's stuff that I don't want but don't know what to do with either and it's not the stuff you'd expect. It's photographs of me from when I was little. From the time when I was being abused. Not only is that triggering as hell, I don't want to keep them. But I don't know the best way to dispose of them either, or whether I'd later regret getting rid of them. I probably wouldn't but I, I dunno, it feels weird throwing my younger self away? Does that sound stupid?
The other problem is I literally don't have space for the more sentimental things of hers, stuff that I couldn't bring myself to get rid of at the time but know is pointless keeping now. Like her dressing gown for instance. I've kept it all in a suitcase but said suitcase is hanging about in the living room and frankly, it's in the way. It's just so difficult to know what to do with it all.
If you've lost someone you're really close to, what did you keep? Did you hoard stuff or get rid of it? If you've kept it, do you actually look at it or is the comfort simply in the fact you know it's there? I really don't know how to feel about it. Naturally I'm very much a de-clutterer and don't like having lots of stuff that's not useful hanging about but even though it's stuff that's been left to me, I don't feel like it's mine. It's hers and I feel like I've no right to get rid...
The other problem is I literally don't have space for the more sentimental things of hers, stuff that I couldn't bring myself to get rid of at the time but know is pointless keeping now. Like her dressing gown for instance. I've kept it all in a suitcase but said suitcase is hanging about in the living room and frankly, it's in the way. It's just so difficult to know what to do with it all.
If you've lost someone you're really close to, what did you keep? Did you hoard stuff or get rid of it? If you've kept it, do you actually look at it or is the comfort simply in the fact you know it's there? I really don't know how to feel about it. Naturally I'm very much a de-clutterer and don't like having lots of stuff that's not useful hanging about but even though it's stuff that's been left to me, I don't feel like it's mine. It's hers and I feel like I've no right to get rid...