Part is hiding?

[Skywatcher]

Does anyone have a part that hides?

 

[EveHarrington]

DID part, IFST part, or...?

Thanks!

 

[Teamwork]

Does anyone have a part that hides?

More than one

 

[Wendell_R]

Yes, I've had parts that hide when they are angry or upset. Little Wendell regularly doesn't really hide, he just goes exploring in the woods (because the outdoors is way safer than inside the house).

 

[Skywatcher]

@EveHarrington my parts showed up when I started emdr. Must be normal because my therapist just “goes with it.” Only thing is, she disappeared during my non-stop flashback Saturday and I’m worried that I can’t protect her.

 

[digger]

@Skywatcher are you talking about DID parts, or parts in some other sense. There are a number of therapies that use the word, but mean different things by it. It would be helpful to you in terms of receiving responses if you were able to clarify what 'parts' means to you.

 

[Skywatcher]

@digger, pretty sure it is not DID, though they seem real to me. I talk to them in my head, I can visualize them. They don’t have names, but I have names for them. In EMDR, they are referred to as a part of you that froze in time. My T calls them “wounded parts.” When I disassociate, I sometimes merge with a part but I am still present. It just gets weird. My hands seem big, I want to suck my thumb for comfort. Not stuff I would do in my adult life. I can usually find them in my head, but the part that was in the bad flashbacks over the weekend seems to be missing.

 

[Wendell_R]

When I disassociate, I sometimes merge with a part but I am still present.

That sounds a lot like me, and my therapist also says they're stuck in time.

There are some non-verbal things you can do that might help you find the missing part. Crayons and a big sheet of white paper is one way I've communicated. Maybe not useful now, but possibly useful later, I make collages in my journal of things that resonate for my various parts. I also have collages of safe space. I find looking at those pages to be useful to bring the parts up.

Your part may be missing because she's afraid, or angry. It might be useful to reassure her that she will be safe with your adult part. Another thing that happens often with me is that my parts just get tired. Sometimes I find them just sleeping, or I notice they are not to be found, I imagine that they might be sleeping, and then that seems like that that is really what they are doing. Sleep is fine for them.

 

[Starfire]

Yes. One that just wants to be alone. Not participate in therapy or any activity. Does his job. A couple that are fearful & active inside but not out. Found a couple lately that are peeking to see what's going on. Perhaps they will come out especially in therapy.

 

[Skywatcher]

Pretty sure that she is scared. Her scene popped up in therapy today while we were dealing with something else.

 

[EveHarrington]

Thanks, I just wanted to clarify as I am familiar with parts in an IFST sense, but not a DID sense.

Same word, different concepts.

 

[Wendell_R]

Pretty sure that she is scared

Have you made a safe place and brought in safe people for her while doing EMDR?