BPD I was looking for info on BPD for my daughter

[Gs172003]

And I found this article.
Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) - HelpGuide.org

My brother thinks my daughter is borderline ( he's a psychiatric nurse practitioner) so I was looking into information. This is an article I have found. Is it accurate?

 

[intothelight]

If you have concerns about your daughter, and she is a minor, it would be best to schedule an appointment with a psychiatric professional for evaluation. If she is not a minor, you can encourage her to seek professional help. I would steer clear of trying to "diagnose" as so many disorders have overlapping symptoms.

 

[Gs172003]

If you have concerns about your daughter, and she is a minor, it would be best to schedule an appointment with a psychiatric professional for evaluation. If she is not a minor, you can encourage her to seek professional help. I would steer clear of trying to "diagnose" as so many disorders have overlapping symptoms.

Thank you. I'm not trying to diagnose per se, just trying to see if her symptoms come close out of curiosity.

 

[Sideways]

Given your daughter’s current situation? I think maybe just be mom. Be there to provide love and support as much as possible.

If you get told by her treatment team that BPD is part of her pathology? Definitely inform yourself on the best way to support her through that.

I know it must be frustrating wanting to help her right now. But she’s getting fairly intensive treatment right now, and coming off the back of a recent suicide attempt? Just visit her when you can, and reassure her that you love her and aren’t going to stop loving her. Leave treatment to her treatment team. Your job being mom? Is more than enough, and incredibly important for her right now.

 

[HealingMama]

Given your daughter’s current situation? I think maybe just be mom. Be there to provide love and support as much as possible.

If you get told by her treatment team that BPD is part of her pathology? Definitely inform yourself on the best way to support her through that.

I know it must be frustrating wanting to help her right now. But she’s getting fairly intensive treatment right now, and coming off the back of a recent suicide attempt? Just visit her when you can, and reassure her that you love her and aren’t going to stop loving her. Leave treatment to her treatment team. Your job being mom? Is more than enough, and incredibly important for her right now.

Yes!

 

[Gs172003]

Given your daughter’s current situation? I think maybe just be mom. Be there to provide love and support as much as possible.

If you get told by her treatment team that BPD is part of her pathology? Definitely inform yourself on the best way to support her through that.

I know it must be frustrating wanting to help her right now. But she’s getting fairly intensive treatment right now, and coming off the back of a recent suicide attempt? Just visit her when you can, and reassure her that you love her and aren’t going to stop loving her. Leave treatment to her treatment team. Your job being mom? Is more than enough, and incredibly important for her right now.

My brother is pushing the whole "she's bpd as they come" thing so I was just doing some research. I don't think she is but honestly...I don't care what she is. I just want her healthy. I just want to know how to care for her the best.
Thank you for the replies.

 

[HealingMama]

Respectfully, your brother has no business diagnosing family, even casually.

 

[Gs172003]

Respectfully, your brother has no business diagnosing family, even casually.

I know but he's just trying to help.

 

[Sideways]

I don’t doubt your brother is trying to be helpful. And it’s not a surprising reaction from someone who works in mental health. Suicide attempt? Must be Borderline. The number of mental health workers who I’ve heard that from myself - couldn’t even count them.

And yeah, often BPD is part of the picture. But often it’s not (like with me).

Borderline or not? What you absolutely do know for sure is that your daughter was in a world of pain to end up in the position she’s in. You made sure she has the best treatment you can get her, and now your job is to be mom.

If your brother persists? Perhaps thank him, and give him some ideas of things that might be more helpful for you and your daughter. Like a shoulder to cry on, a nonjudgmental ear to vent to, or the odd caserole brought round to stick in the fridge for you. It does sound like he wants to be helpful - it’s okay to take him up on that, and ask him for help with things that would be genuinely helpful for you right now.

 

[Gs172003]

I don’t doubt your brother is trying to be helpful. And it’s not a surprising reaction from someone who works in mental health. Suicide attempt? Must be Borderline. The number of mental health workers who I’ve heard that from myself - couldn’t even count them.

And yeah, often BPD is part of the picture. But often it’s not (like with me).

Borderline or not? What you absolutely do know for sure is that your daughter was in a world of pain to end up in the position she’s in. You made sure she has the best treatment you can get her, and now your job is to be mom.

If your brother persists? Perhaps thank him, and give him some ideas of things that might be more helpful for you and your daughter. Like a shoulder to cry on, a nonjudgmental ear to vent to, or the odd caserole brought round to stick in the fridge for you. It does sound like he wants to be helpful - it’s okay to take him up on that, and ask him for help with things that would be genuinely helpful for you right now.

There's other reasons he's brought it up too but honestly he doesn't know her well enough to make a diagnosis. That said...
This is his way of helping. He's not good at other ways so for him to "figure it out" is how he does it.