Sexual Assault Husband laughed about my sexual abuse

[Jade-]

I wasn't sure which prefix to use

My husband just laughed and made fun of me for being sexually abused in childhood a little bit ago,during an argument. He even talked about the details of what I went through and said "I bet you f*cked all your brothers and your dad too". Then he said "I bet I could get a good blow job from you if I put you in a box and put holes in it"(part of my SA was being put in a crate that had small round holes in it.I was forced to suck/touch whatever penis was stuck in a hole.I never knew which hole one would be stuck in.I did what I was told so I could get out of the crate).At first when he said that about a box I didn't know what he was talking about but then he went into detail.

He also told me he plans on leaving me but not until he completely breaks me down first.

I think he may have just completely broke me

 

[LuckiLee]

I am so sorry he's done this to you. He is disgusting!!! Get the hell out of there! Can you stay with a friend or family member until you can come up with a plan? Don't let him hurt you anymore than he already has.

Take care of yourself!
XO

 

[Gs172003]

I wasn't sure which prefix to use

My husband just laughed and made fun of me for being sexually abused in childhood a little bit ago,during an argument. He even talked about the details of what I went through and said "I bet you f*cked all your brothers and your dad too". Then he said "I bet I could get a good blow job from you if I put you in a box and put holes in it"(part of my SA was being put in a crate that had small round holes in it.I was forced to suck/touch whatever penis was stuck in a hole.I never knew which hole one would be stuck in.I did what I was told so I could get out of the crate).At first when he said that about a box I didn't know what he was talking about but then he went into detail.

He also told me he plans on leaving me but not until he completely breaks me down first.

I think he may have just completely broke me

What a douche. Get the heck out of there.

 

[somerandomguy]

This is horrible. Terrible, disgusting, inhuman. Can you get out? Right now?

 

[Friday]

He also told me he plans on leaving me but not until he completely breaks me down first

My husband just laughed and made fun of me for being sexually abused in childhood a little bit ago,during an argument.

That’s 2 deal breakers for the price of 1.

AKA Kick him to the curb & Divorce his ass.

 

[Deanna]

That’s 2 deal breakers for the price of 1.

AKA Kick him to the curb & Divorce his ass.

Can she she call the police because he threatened "to break her down"? Mainly a copy of the police report for her records?

 

[Friday]

Can she she call the police because he threatened "to break her down"? Mainly a copy of the police report for her records?

One can always call the police, but what they’re empowered to do varies tremendously. So, personally, I’d say that’s really a lawyer question... as it totally depends on the country / state / etc.

Most places in the US the entire statement would rate an RO; detailing childhood sexual abuse as a threat / being scared for her safety from someone so sick and deranged. But a lawyer would still be the fastest and most assured way of attaining the right kind(s) of Restraining Orders, and in phrasing things in such a way as to be taken seriously by the courts.

 

[Skywatcher]

Please remember that what happened to you as a child was not your fault. I know that it may feel hard to leave your husband because it sounds like you may have married the very thing you were used to as a child. However, be strong. You survived your past abuse and you will survive this too. Do not be afraid to stand tall you are not alone!

 

[Justmehere]

The sexual and physical abuse you have posted about in other threads is more than enough for a restraining order against him. These promises to break you and making fun of your abuse... I know it's really hard to think of leaving, especially because you have a daughter, but he isn't safe. It's time to get out.

 

[Jade-]

The sexual and physical abuse you have posted about in other threads is more than enough for a restraining order against him. These promises to break you and making fun of your abuse... I know it's really hard to think of leaving, especially because you have a daughter, but he isn't safe. It's time to get out.

You must have me confused with someone else.I have not talked about sexual and physical abuse in other threads and don't have a daughter.

Thanks for all the replies here.I feel numb and physically sick from this and I feel frozen and incapable of doing anything about it in this moment.

 

[Lionheart]

@JadeB. ,

I am a survivor of sexual child abuse and I wanted to tell you that...

It is okay not to accept abuse from others whether it is verbal, physical, and/or sexual. You are not obligated to put up with this type of behavior from anyone regardless of what happened in the past. I hope you can get out to a shelter for women or otherwise get assistance in leaving this disgusting excuse for a man; safely and without further harm to you.

What he said to you was not funny or entertaining and he should be ashamed of himself. I hope you can leave this situation as soon as it is safe for you to do so. No one deserves to be abused or to be threatened with abuse. Please take steps to ensure your safety and well being. I am not familiar with domestic violence situations or the threat of domestic violence so I hope someone else here can speak about possible safety issues and concerns. I wish you the best.

 

[Justmehere]

You must have me confused with someone else.I have not talked about sexual and physical abuse in other threads and don't have a daughter.

Oh darn, I am so sorry. I just realized how I mixed it up. Thanks for setting me straight.

STILL, what he said is terrible and very concerning.