What is an exit fantasy?

[Justmehere]

I used to carry around a written plan in my pocket. I had an exit fantasy. I had it as a way to cope... it was maladaptive... and I work really hard even still to replace it with healthier escapes and ways to not escape.

I hope the pain you are in lessens soon.

 

[TruthSeeker]

I told her that I'm questioning my faith and that the idea of just being an animal is comforting in the way that dying in that way wouldn't be a big deal. I probably wouldn't do it because of my kids and granddaughter but if it wasn't for them I probably would.

One of my fears is my kids taking their lives. My daughter has already tried and my son wouldn't surprise me or my therapist at all. The last thing I need to do is give him an excuse ( well mom did it).

Damn-isn't that a bxtch....really, when you think about it....I can't commit suicide because I'm a role model for my daughter....and she's tried it, like yours. But here, when I was raising her, I didn't drink in front of her, I kept no liquor in the house, I didn't use drugs for escape-and I never committed suicide while she was growing up or left my motherly post for a hospital trip (although I probably should have).....but that role model stuff didn't seem to matter....I didn't want her to be like my alcoholic X husband (her father)-a drunk/drug abuser. So, she got into some heavy drugs in college, has memory issues and health issues now.... Yeah, I've already been called crazy and, suicide would solidify that-wouldn't it. Besides, I wouldn't want someone I cared about finding me dead....yeah, they'd never get over that image in their head. Hope the guilt as a parent role model keeps you here on earth. That's why it's not a choice for me, too.

 

[Gs172003]

Thank you all. I appreciate all the input. I really do.

 

[Bozo]

I am right there with you. Can't even get outta bed. Father committed suicide when I was 20. I have much to be thankful for, but it just does not matter. Looking for my exit plan, but will never do to my kids what was done to me.

Thank you all. I appreciate all the input. I really do.

 

[Starfire]

That said, what does it mean?

In the military, there is an exit strategy. When getting ready to bug out you have a bag packed..vehicle gased up... money available...destination & route drawn out. Perhaps plans at your destinction. You know how, when, where.
The fantasy part comes in as unrealistic, unexpected outcomes. I read an article many years ago called So you want to commit suicide. It talked in gory detail of what could be the result, short of death, for any method you can think of. A stomach horribly damaged from an aspirin overdose that left the person with life long medical issues. Vegetative states, brain damage, on and on.

 

[Deanna]

A stomach horribly damaged from an aspirin overdose that left the person with life long medical issues. Vegetative states, brain damage, on and on

It's all very sad.( part of my trauma life anyway) I'm a person that wakes up everyday and doesn't really have a direction in life but do what I can to make it through. I've never considered suicide. I mean come on. Lay in dirt.. Dead.. Or burnt. Wheee! ( there is no logic in that so its a broken pattern ) I don't have much and my life is far from perfect.. But I am too curios to leave.

 

[TruthSeeker]

In the military, there is an exit strategy. When getting ready to bug out you have a bag packed..vehicle gased up... money available...destination & route drawn out. Perhaps plans at your destinction. You know how, when, where.
The fantasy part comes in as unrealistic, unexpected outcomes. I read an article many years ago called So you want to commit suicide. It talked in gory detail of what could be the result, short of death, for any method you can think of. A stomach horribly damaged from an aspirin overdose that left the person with life long medical issues. Vegetative states, brain damage, on and on.

When I was being abused, in my new home, I had an exit plan....similar to yours.....A packed bag in the car, 1 months' worth of meds, cash and credit card in the car, a spare pr. of glasses, a spare pr. of keys in the car, drinks and snacks, a bed and pillow, blankets, and some camping lights, electricity cords, phone charger, and I kept a spare pr of keys in the hall near the door for a quick exit. My exit to place would be a campground with electricity.

 

[AnnieMae]

My escape plan is to create a new life. I can’t change though. I am trapped between 2 different lives which is weird. It makes it difficult to know which way to go when you don’t have any direction.