Piecing things together

[HealingMama]

That's fantastic!!!! Is this a thing that anyone could do, or is it more like a Catholic Marriage Encounter? Asking for a friend hell no, I'm asking for myself.

The retreat or the healing?

 

[HealingMama]

That's fantastic!!!! Is this a thing that anyone could do, or is it more like a Catholic Marriage Encounter? Asking for a friend hell no, I'm asking for myself.

Both are open to anyone. If there is a way to message you privately I can share the details but I'd rather not post them in my public diary for privacy reasons.

 

[somerandomguy]

Sorry - I meant the retreat. There's no way to private message, and I understand your need for privacy. Hmm. Maybe I will start looking stuff up.

 

[HealingMama]

Sorry - I meant the retreat. There's no way to private message, and I understand your need for privacy. Hmm. Maybe I will start looking stuff up.

The type of retreat that I did is for ayurvedic healing which is like Indian based medicine. So food as medicine, massage, stress relieving methods of detoxification.

They have ayurvedic retreat centers all over the country. More common in larger areas with big holistic health markets like NC, CA, OR, Colorado, probably Austin TX, and Kripalu yoga center in the Northeast has a lot of this stuff also. There is a center called Art of Living in NC that has good offerings like this too.

Simple foods, yoga, and relaxation methods are recommended by the facilitators based on your goals. Yoga class can be attempted with no experience whatsoever and the teacher can help you modify the instructions for any body type (and none of the activities are "required" anyway).

I would say the retreat helped calm my hyperarousal but it was the energy healing that helped me get the results that I wanted from therapy to overcome some long standing patterns related to shame, grief, fear and sadness.

Also, however, the retreat approach this time of year is great for anxiety because the food and activities are meant to balance out the energy that creates anxiety. It is called vata dosha. Fall in the northern hemisphere increases vata for everybody which can create anxiety. Everything we did including the food we ate was grounding and centering.

It was lovely.

 

[HealingMama]

More about ayurveda for anxiety Here

And ayurveda approach to healing/balancing anger, irritability, impatience and judgmentalness can be explored Dead Link Removed

 

[HealingMama]

So, last night we had a glitch in our interactions where he got anxious and I reacted to how he was communicating.

And it didn't escalate. I didn't have that same fear and compulsion pulling me to be pushy about things. No intensity. I left the room a bit upset but then I called him and said let's start over and I meant it. No fear there. No anger. Just hmm, here is this pattern, and I don't choose it now. I felt like I was positioned internally very differently from how I've been positioned previously.

I'll have to tell the energy worker that I tested the permanence of the work and so far so good.

 

[HealingMama]

Really angry at my husband for napping but I don't think this is a trauma response anymore. This is just I'm working ten hour days, and your schedule is light, and there's stuff that needs doing around here.

I'm also angry because he will never learn to sleep decently if he naps during the day. If he never sleeps decently we can't share a bedroom because I can't sleep well around his chaotic ups and downs.

So it's like napping means he's not choosing the relationship or something. I guess that is irrational but my division of labor anger is justified I think.

 

[Deanna]

This is just I'm working ten hour days, and your schedule is light, and there's stuff that needs doing around here

He's not going to clean. You'll have to hire a service. The napping would irritate me as well. ( so u are not alone)

 

[Fozbear]

He's not going to clean. You'll have to hire a service. The napping would irritate me as well. ( so u are not alone)

Napping during the day. Isn’t the spouse sick with a flu and short of breath and taking care of the self as a result is napping? And the spouse got angry and said the spouse was abusive and a dick for just saying why are you late for work after yelling at them for not doing the laundry properly? Don’t understand this.

 

[Deanna]

I'm learning that all men are not like this, though. Even my boyfriend ( I've got a sick cat, he has to feed my cat for me while I'm at work and then I come home and feed her) and he said he was tired of it after 5 days and he has the time. ) But another guy would feed her for me and be glad to do it.. This is my boyfriend! So there you go ( she is being forced fed thru a tube because she almost died)

 

[HealingMama]

He's not going to clean. You'll have to hire a service. The napping would irritate me as well. ( so u are not alone)

He cleaned the whole house while I was out of town including cluttery spots that i didn't specifically ask him to clean but he wanted to to make me happy.

He does clean but requires reminders and lacks a sense of urgency about it. He also procrastinates. It is part of the ADHD. I probably have an overinflated work ethic and so his ability to relax like that annoys me because I don't get to do that.

Except I just got a whole weekend of doing that so I should count my blessings I guess.

 

[Deanna]

He cleaned the whole house while I was out of town including cluttery spots that i didn't specifically ask him to clean but he wanted to to make me happy.

He does clean but requires reminders and lacks a sense of urgency about it. He also procrastinates. It is part of the ADHD. I probably have an overinflated work ethic and so his ability to relax like that annoys me because I don't get to do that.

Except I just got a whole weekend of doing that so I should count my blessings I guess.

Yes.. Its about what he has done. Not about what he doing now. I have to do it too ( remember the blessings). He has fed the ?.