siniang
Policy Enforcement
Tell him it will be either you AND your dog staying at his or you won't be staying and he won't see you for who knows how long. Ask him what you CAN do to help him with this - but keep in mind, you already offered a lot and yet he was unwilling to even think about it.
You say he says he knows you come with pets for your future life together. I honestly don't think he actually understands this nor has accepted it. My feelings is he's secretly hoping the "problem" will resolve on its own...
I told him that she wouldn't have to be on the bed, I'd keep an eye on her, I'd take her out discreetly, I'd keep her quiet (she's used to apartment life already anyway), and I'd give her her previously-prescribed anxiety medication to keep her quiet and calm.
You say he says he knows you come with pets for your future life together. I honestly don't think he actually understands this nor has accepted it. My feelings is he's secretly hoping the "problem" will resolve on its own...