Justmehere
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A friend recently told me hand sanitizer was going to melt the equipment in my car and then handed me a basket they invested a lot of time into, unasked for, designed for my car of soap and water bottles, only the soap I'm wildly allergic to and the whole thing set off a wild train of dark thoughts. I gave the soap set up back, and thanked them greatly for thinking of me, because that was the good part of it all - and that's not to be overlooked at all. I keep trying to re-frame it and keep boundaries, but this is a tough subject for me. It's not just this example, but many. I can handle the person fine enough, but my self talk is very dark and down on myself.
Not applicable to anything on this forum, as it's different here. Never gets too me, and is often helpful. Even when it is not helpful, I just see that people care. Nothing more or less, simply that someone cared enough to give a suggestion that I can take or leave. Offline.... I don't seem to think this at all. Like with the soap thing, I wanted to penalize myself for being stupid about soap. What even.
I am trying to find ways to handle self talk to myself about unasked for advice.
Not applicable to anything on this forum, as it's different here. Never gets too me, and is often helpful. Even when it is not helpful, I just see that people care. Nothing more or less, simply that someone cared enough to give a suggestion that I can take or leave. Offline.... I don't seem to think this at all. Like with the soap thing, I wanted to penalize myself for being stupid about soap. What even.
I am trying to find ways to handle self talk to myself about unasked for advice.