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Advice on living alone

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Givrali

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So I'm 29 but never lived alone.
From the beginning I can't remember a time I was feeling good (or more exactly feeling good while not being dissociated from an important part of myself) and completely cracked after obligatory school while in apprenticeship. So I ended living 24/7 with my father who was having a cancer while his cancer was the last straw to my mental health and just before dying he sent me with my consent to a group home.
At start the group home was what I needed but about 1 year ago it became more harmful than beneficial to me but it's only now that I can leave.

So I'm cut from everyone that helped me during my life to deal with living alone. I was in a health net in group home and will still have it in my own home. To replace support from group home I'll have
.an educator coming once a week
.A nurse
.A therapist that I'll keep seeing once a week and can text and call if needed
. Someone to help with housework
.friends that I made because they were supportive friendly and want me to be as happy and healthy I can
.occupational work (basically a place I can do activities with other damaged-by-life people and with someone formed for mental stuff I can talk to if I need)

I think about asking for prepared meals some times in a week but I want to see how many times a week I'll need before asking for.

It's planned I get from the nurse and therapist a constant emergency contact in case my constant suicidal thoughts got too high to handle but not to the point I need to be hospitalized.

I know where to go if suicidal thoughts are too bad to avoid getting hospitalized and I'm able even in this scenario to reach that place.

This following disorders and health problems probably or actually followed me for most my life or since I'm borned
.autism
.depression
.Ptsd very likely complex
.high daily life anxiety
.light but 24/7 dissociation dp dr
.because of all above chronic tireness

My other issue, insomnia, is completely dealt with now thanks to have found the right medication.

What I need to know:
-I'll need to track my meals to know how often I rely on industrial meals or junk food at important meals
-does something in comparing situation helped you that I didn't mentioned yet ?
-what can I expect from living on my own for the first time about mental health?

I don't have trustworthy family I can go to if I Crack (my cousin being not able to take care of me because she already has to take care of herself) and my friends can't give me a place for more than few days if needed.
 
Sounds like you have got a good plan in place. Have thought about what you need. Have professionals giving support and advice and emergency care should you need it
You sound impressively ready for this.
I get the feeling you know what you want and have planned for it, but there remains the unknown of how it will be.

To help with the transition, can you spend one night ijntje new place and then back to the old place and build up to fully moving in on your own?
 
To help with the transition, can you spend one night ijntje new place and then back to the old place and build up to fully moving in on your own
It's a good idea. I'll sleep Friday at the new place... tomorrow right ?... and spend some time at group home Saturday. Sleep Saturday at new home night. Spend less time Sunday at group home and go forever to new place at this time.
Thanks
 
So I'm 29 but never lived alone.
From the beginning I can't remember a time I was feeling good (or more exactly feeling good while not being dissociated from an important part of myself) and completely cracked after obligatory school while in apprenticeship. So I ended living 24/7 with my father who was having a cancer while his cancer was the last straw to my mental health and just before dying he sent me with my consent to a group home.
At start the group home was what I needed but about 1 year ago it became more harmful than beneficial to me but it's only now that I can leave.

So I'm cut from everyone that helped me during my life to deal with living alone. I was in a health net in group home and will still have it in my own home. To replace support from group home I'll have
.an educator coming once a week
.A nurse
.A therapist that I'll keep seeing once a week and can text and call if needed
. Someone to help with housework
.friends that I made because they were supportive friendly and want me to be as happy and healthy I can
.occupational work (basically a place I can do activities with other damaged-by-life people and with someone formed for mental stuff I can talk to if I need)

I think about asking for prepared meals some times in a week but I want to see how many times a week I'll need before asking for.

It's planned I get from the nurse and therapist a constant emergency contact in case my constant suicidal thoughts got too high to handle but not to the point I need to be hospitalized.

I know where to go if suicidal thoughts are too bad to avoid getting hospitalized and I'm able even in this scenario to reach that place.

This following disorders and health problems probably or actually followed me for most my life or since I'm borned
.autism
.depression
.Ptsd very likely complex
.high daily life anxiety
.light but 24/7 dissociation dp dr
.because of all above chronic tireness

My other issue, insomnia, is completely dealt with now thanks to have found the right medication.

What I need to know:
-I'll need to track my meals to know how often I rely on industrial meals or junk food at important meals
-does something in comparing situation helped you that I didn't mentioned yet ?
-what can I expect from living on my own for the first time about mental health?

I don't have trustworthy family I can go to if I Crack (my cousin being not able to take care of me because she already has to take care of herself) and my friends can't give me a place for more than few days if needed.
You have a good plan and good awareness of yourself and your resources. Congrats.
 
Ok I the movers left and I put some things on my cupboard. I'll go back group home to eat and calm myself down a bit then go back my new home to sleep. The group home and my own home are very close

Sadly my nurse won't be an emergency call during nights

I texted my therapist about it. I'm waiting her answer
 
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