Two very different options and stuck between

[Friday]

My T isn't looking for input...

They’ve said as much? Or you’re assuming?

 

[Midnightmoon]

They’ve said as much? Or you’re assuming?

I guess I've sort of come to the conclusion as when I asked during the appt she told me what she was doing and then carried on.

 

[No More]

My very frustrating saga continues, option one is throwing up many a challenge, including eating meals and snacks, replying to emails and reading her texts during appointments... (virtual)

Sorry what.
Why are you putting up with this crap?

Sure, there’s a big difference in a one off apology to say hey look I’ve misjudged my timings and I’m just going to down this cereal bar, or a shit sorry, forgot to turn phone on silent and pulling this crap repeatedly.

I would be out that door so fast the therapist would be getting whiplash.

 

[Midnightmoon]

Sorry what.
Why are you putting up with this crap?

Depressingly because she's the only person who will take me...

 

[Movingforward10]

My T isn't looking for input... and I don't believe I have the right, as a low fee paying client, to demand she doesn't email/ text/ eat during session..

You do have a right.
It's a very basic right that you have her unconditional positive regard.
You also have a right to make a complaint as this is below professional standards.


If you feel you have no choice but to see her, then can you ask that she focuses on you only in the session. And hopefully she can say yes to that. But you have a right to ask/demand/expect.

 

[Charbella]

Depressingly because she's the only person who will take me...

Still doesn’t mean you can’t tell her how you feel about it. I mean your job as a client is to talk about your feelings so tell her how those behaviors make you feel..

 

[Midnightmoon]

It's sort of surprising me (in a nice way) that you all seem to think it's not ok, I thought I was being a bit dramatic and needy...

then can you ask that she focuses on you only in the session.

I don't mind people being human, but it's every single session and it's a bit hard.

so tell her how those behaviors make you feel..

I sort of did, and said I struggled with the mouse clicking as it was distracting, she replied asking why her tending to her private matters regarding her health and making sure she was looking after herself was an issue for me. I guess that's what's fed the feeling of asking for too much

 

[No More]

It's sort of surprising me (in a nice way) that you all seem to think it's not ok, I thought I was being a bit dramatic and needy...


I don't mind people being human, but it's every single session and it's a bit hard.


I sort of did, and said I struggled with the mouse clicking as it was distracting, she replied asking why her tending to her private matters regarding her health and making sure she was looking after herself was an issue for me. I guess that's what's fed the feeling of asking for too much

Hahaha I would have hit the f*cking roof. It’s an issue because she’s doing it in *your* appointment time, that’s for her to do in her own f*cking time. In *your* appointment, her attention and focus should be on you.

I’m saying this kindly, as I’m aware it’s going to come across bluntly and I don’t mean it to.

You are worth more than this. You deserve more than this. You deserve appropriate care, you deserve your therapists full attention in your session, you deserve basic respect for your time and your money and your journey. Don’t put up with this appalling treatment. Show up for yourself here, this isn’t acceptable and you don’t have to accept it.

 

[Movingforward10]

Second everything @No More said.

it’s an outrageous and emotionally manipulative response that she gave you.

 

[Midnightmoon]

@No More @Movingforward10 thank you both, it helps validate, now just need to get my big girl pants on and try and sort it out

 

[brokenpony]

My very frustrating saga continues, option one is throwing up many a challenge, including eating meals and snacks, replying to emails and reading her texts during appointments... (virtual)

I can't bring it up, it feels beyond rude of me to question her... but non of it is helping me feel secure in the slightest. I'm still looking for other options but just getting back decline after decline...I'm beginning to think that my only option is sticking with someone who is busy reading her emails (I asked her what she was doing, as I could see her reading and clicking, so she told me!) whilst I'm trying to talk about vulnerable stuff

this is the DID specialist!?

 

[Midnightmoon]

this is the DID specialist!?

Yeah....