Please help me process - BFF with PTSD is starting meds

[Dynamic]

What’s with people I know this is random but still relative to thread

Same friend just got cheated on (while on the phone) like he was having sex while on the phone with her ?! Wth

Like okay soul crusher? I’m coming for you (not physically)

 

[Dynamic]

Vent in this place bc it’s related.

I’ve had to have tough love with my best friend and I feel guilt and shame

I feel like I’m hurting them but I’m not

I simply said no and explained why and it’s okay

 

[Dynamic]

ugh im so frustrated need to find my lapto to type faster!

I started writing a report on the anonymous police tips (ughhh police


My friend KS needs the help. I have to take medicine before I can do this
KS is being abused and so is the child

 

[Dynamic]

I’m actually gonna wait. I’m looking up sense of agency. So instead I’ve said to my friend directly that I would like to make a report.

 

[Dynamic]

Idk I guess meds didn’t go that well.

They are in inpatient

Keep calling to let me know updates
Said I can visit
And gave me their code to talk on the phone

I feel disconnected from them but they are reaching out
Weird.

 

[Dynamic]

I feel obligated and with true loving intent to call… it idk what to say? Stop letting your ex abuse you? Like I don’t think I have something helpful to say…

But I feel they are reaching out for my support and I want to be there

 

[Tinyflame]

Idk how to help others but I would think it has more to do with knowing you are on her side @Defaultxlove .

The good thing is she considers you enough of a friend to reach out and is able to. I would just try to remember what made you friends to begin with.

 

[Dynamic]

Thanks @Tinyflame

Further…I’ve clearly had a lil panic about calling but I agree it should be about just being supportive. Feels silly to ask how are you when in inpatient…

I’m concerned about the plans for after inpatient it includes the abusive family ?

My head just goes ????

So I can say that maybe

That I don’t fully understand what’s going on but I’m here supporting

 

[Tinyflame]

Just a guess @Defaultxlove but I don't think being inpatient is the ideal time for brutal discussions? I would think the best part of being a friend to her is being your authentic self and kind, gentle and honest. Friends can say whatever they are thinking but there are rarely fast solutions. Things take time and stability is the minimum.

 

[Dynamic]

@Tinyflame yeah i agree it’s not the time to bring anything up

I called and they had moved sections so I called that section left a message and they called back when I really couldn’t talk. So we basically got to say hi thanks hope you’re well type stuff and we both were happy so that’s good

Anxiety sucks sometimes

 

[Tinyflame]

Yes. It's the respect of knowing your anxiety takes second place to what they need. You can care for them anyway.

Hugs to you.

 

[Dynamic]

This friend absolutely just flipped out on me

Even said

“You’re ruining my life”

okay so distance myself got it