Dressing up

[katz]

Does anyone find themselves dressing up nicer when around the family? I have always been overdressed when with my family. When we all went to see my dad for his birthday, everyone had on shorts and casual stuff. I wore blue jeans and a nice shirt-even nice jewelry.

I have always felt like I "needed" to dress up. I have found that the more nervous I feel, the nicer I look. Anyone else have this happen to them? I wonder why?

 

[Friday]

I have always felt like I "needed" to dress up. I have found that the more nervous I feel, the nicer I look. Anyone else have this happen to them? I wonder why?

I know a lot of people who equate their wardrobe with armour / being properly dressed for battle.

That’s not me, except on very rare occasions, when I need to put distance between myself & others.

 

[No More]

My only nod to this is my nails. If I’ve got some kinda dayglo gel on, alls good in the world.

If I have sns with french tips? We’re going to war, baby!

 

[katz]

I know a lot of people who equate their wardrobe with armour / being properly dressed for battle.

That’s not me, except on very rare occasions, when I need to put distance between myself & others.

Thanks, Friday. I had never thought of it that way - as armor. It's interesting that now it is almost embarrassing to show up to a summer picnic in jeans and a fancy shirt instead of shorts and a t-shirt.
But it is a good way to think of it. I have often told my friends that the better I look, the more upset inside I am.

 

[NoahMitchell]

Does anyone find themselves dressing up nicer when around the family? I have always been overdressed when with my family. When we all went to see my dad for his birthday, everyone had on shorts and casual stuff. I wore blue jeans and a nice shirt-even nice jewelry.

I have always felt like I "needed" to dress up. I have found that the more nervous I feel, the nicer I look. Anyone else have this happen to them? I wonder why?

I always get dressed up because I feel good. I don't care what other thinks, because if I start thinking what other think, then I will never stay happy.

 

[oh!theperspicacity]

Does anyone find themselves dressing up nicer when around the family? I have always been overdressed when with my family. When we all went to see my dad for his birthday, everyone had on shorts and casual stuff. I wore blue jeans and a nice shirt-even nice jewelry.

I have always felt like I "needed" to dress up. I have found that the more nervous I feel, the nicer I look. Anyone else have this happen to them? I wonder why?

I used to do this too. I think it was so I felt better about myself especially since family is a massive trigger for me. More recently I've opted to dress comfortably rather than dress up. I think that's out of sheer exhaustion and the time it takes to get ready but also a bit of an attitude shift. My mental health hasn't been good and it's perhaps an unconscious signalling to family that I'm not well despite what I seem to be achieving. Not to try and get sympathy but to say that I choose not to subscribe to their idea of how I should dress or behave or be. Accept me as I am or piss off.

 

[abovedown]

I always get dressed up because I feel good. I don't care what other thinks, because if I start thinking what other think, then I will never stay happy.

I have noticed too that when I put a bit makeup and nice clothes when going out or to work I feel more confident. I do it for myself not for others

 

[arfie]

i don't have family to dress up for, but somewhere in the mid 80's i was working in tech development and on a painfully tight, young family budget. "dress" clothes were routinely much cheaper and far more available than the in-fashion blue jeans in the second-had shops. blue jeans were almost unavailable in the second-hand stores while one could buy dress clothes with the tags still on them for prices that fit my cruelly tight clothes budget. i bought the cheap stuff and was almost immediately told there was a blue jean dress code in the office. girl, howdy, that set my authority issues into public protest mode. i haven't voluntarily worn denim since. i am still paying less for my used dress clothes than my more fashionable peers pay for pre-holeyed blue jeans.

fast forward 40 years and i'm wondering if the next fashion trend will allow me to sell my worn and stained work dresses for as much as i sold my work jeans for in the 90's.

 

[abovedown]

i don't have family to dress up for, but somewhere in the mid 80's i was working in tech development and on a painfully tight, young family budget. "dress" clothes were routinely much cheaper and far more available than the in-fashion blue jeans in the second-had shops. blue jeans were almost unavailable in the second-hand stores while one could buy dress clothes with the tags still on them for prices that fit my cruelly tight clothes budget. i bought the cheap stuff and was almost immediately told there was a blue jean dress code in the office. girl, howdy, that set my authority issues into public protest mode. i haven't voluntarily worn denim since. i am still paying less for my used dress clothes than my more fashionable peers pay for pre-holeyed blue jeans.

fast forward 40 years and i'm wondering if the next fashion trend will allow me to sell my worn and stained work dresses for as much as i sold my work jeans for in the 90's.

Wow blue jeans as dress code sounds kinda weird . Was denim that fashionable in 1980s?

 

[Friday]

I have noticed too that when I put a bit makeup and nice clothes when going out or to work I feel more confident. I do it for myself not for others

What do you look like / smell like when you’re sick?

As I’ve found that’s a different answer, than when one is interacting with others, on purpose.

 

[arfie]

Was denim that fashionable in 1980s?

remember that tech was still cutting edge in the 80's. relaxed dress codes were among their prouder innovations. i interpret the dominant fashion in those early tech offices as violating parental dress codes. most of these folks were raised by big-haired mother's whose hair wouldn't move in a sexy convertible. proof available in any movie theater. daddy wore 3 piece suits in blistering hot weather. blue jeans were worn by farm hands and mechanics.

the office troop that ganged up on me about my second-hand dress clothes were delivering their rebellion in tones they heard during their childhoods. no, i didn't get fired for admitting that i couldn't afford new blue jeans and second-hand blue jeans were not available. several of those co-workers were shocked at the prices i paid for leading brand "dress clothes." i'm not sure they had ever seen the inside of a second-hand store.

 

[abovedown]

remember that tech was still cutting edge in the 80's. relaxed dress codes were among their prouder innovations. i interpret the dominant fashion in those early tech offices as violating parental dress codes. most of these folks were raised by big-haired mother's whose hair wouldn't move in a sexy convertible. proof available in any movie theater. daddy wore 3 piece suits in blistering hot weather. blue jeans were worn by farm hands and mechanics.

the office troop that ganged up on me about my second-hand dress clothes were delivering their rebellion in tones they heard during their childhoods. no, i didn't get fired for admitting that i couldn't afford new blue jeans and second-hand blue jeans were not available. several of those co-workers were shocked at the prices i paid for leading brand "dress clothes." i'm not sure they had ever seen the inside of a second-hand store.

It's interesting how fashion behaves. Nowadays if you would tress like in three-piece-suits or a dress with petty coats you would be the leading example of the alternative fashion movement