Sufferer My PTSD “When the Man Who Held It All Together Falls Apart”

[headtypo]

Ten years into my marriage, I was diagnosed with PTSD after a traumatic accident that changed my life forever. For 15 years, I put off my own health, working through pain and drowning it in alcohol, while paying the bills, the mortgage, birthdays, and vacations. Eventually, the years of carrying everything took a toll, and my wife and I agreed it was time for her to step up. She knew what I needed—that I had to finally face my problems without the bottle—and we agreed she would go to school so she could support our family, giving me the chance to heal. But when I finally sat down to confront my demons, everything I built began to collapse. Instead of support, my illness was turned against me. My children were pulled away, and the woman I sacrificed for found independence without me. This is what it looks like when the man who held it all together falls apart.

 

[parrotthepolly]

Welcome!

It's a common theme to get abandoned with this illness so I'm sure glad I never trusted anyone.

Hope you find healing one day.

 

[Sideways]

Welcome to the forum. Sorry you have reason to be here.

 

[arfie]

hello headtypo. welcome to the forum. sorry for what brings you here, but glad you are here.

in my family of 5 brothers and 6 sisters, it also looks kinda like that when the woman who holds it all together falls apart. recovery is a rough ride for all the players involved, regardless of gender, etc. ditto for the sibs-in-healing who have been my lifeline through the confusion of it all.

steadying support while you find your way through. welcome aboard.

 

[Rose White]

Welcome to the forum. Facing my PTSD also caused my family to be blown apart. Sorry you’re in it.

 

[Survivor3]

Hi @headtypo , welcome to the site. I have a history of complex trauma, depression and anxiety. Also was a alcoholic. Been clean for 5 years. Always available for a chat.

 

[headtypo]

Thanks I have been sober since 2019 and I have been diagnosed with PTSD since 2011 due to a traumatic accident and I it’s been a long road.

 

[headtypo]

Welcome to the forum. Sorry you have reason to be here.

It’s alright I things happen and the only thing we can do is think ourselves to death or get over it and I am tired of thinking about it and I don’t care anymore

 

[Friday]

This is what it looks like when the man who held it all together falls apart.

Yep

It’s alright I things happen and the only thing we can do is think ourselves to death or get over it and I am tired of thinking about it and I don’t care anymore

Here’s some action for you >>> The ptsd cup explanation

 

[user56652]

I feel your pain. I was fighting 2 battles and while I "won" one the other is still ongoing.

 

[headtypo]

I feel your pain. I was fighting 2 battles and while I "won" one the other is still ongoing.

You got it how do you say freed up the other hand buddy. f*ck it up

 

[headtypo]

And if you are fighting to be with someone you lost because you need to focus on yourself instead and if you have to fight for yourself then beg someone for support like I was just let them go buddy