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KP,
You admitted that this was going to be a trying week for you, and that you were concerned about it. But so far you ARE doing it.
It is, as you know, quite common for old resolved stuff to resurface when stressed. You are a good Mum. When I was considering adoption (since cancer and autoimmune disorders destroyed any chance for a natural birth), I was so concerned that I "wasn't fit to be a Mom" and would only "pass on to any of my children the abuse and neglect that I had learned from my mother" - and no child deserved that. But my therapist, who also taught parenting classes, astutely remarked "The parents who make bad parents and permanently scar their children are the ones who NEVER ask themselves IF they would be a good parent!"
You are always looking at the impact you have on your family and friends. So any small harm you might have done in any one moment is certainly not permanent by any means. Your loving care and attention to such things makes damn sure of that. If it is still bothering you later, maybe you could talk to your daughter and just ask. I bet you are much more concerned about this than she is.
Until then, I only ask that you be as kind and forgiving to yourself as you are to everyone else.
((( guarding you as you work your way thru this week )))
Warm Hugs,
Alex
You admitted that this was going to be a trying week for you, and that you were concerned about it. But so far you ARE doing it.
It is, as you know, quite common for old resolved stuff to resurface when stressed. You are a good Mum. When I was considering adoption (since cancer and autoimmune disorders destroyed any chance for a natural birth), I was so concerned that I "wasn't fit to be a Mom" and would only "pass on to any of my children the abuse and neglect that I had learned from my mother" - and no child deserved that. But my therapist, who also taught parenting classes, astutely remarked "The parents who make bad parents and permanently scar their children are the ones who NEVER ask themselves IF they would be a good parent!"
You are always looking at the impact you have on your family and friends. So any small harm you might have done in any one moment is certainly not permanent by any means. Your loving care and attention to such things makes damn sure of that. If it is still bothering you later, maybe you could talk to your daughter and just ask. I bet you are much more concerned about this than she is.
Until then, I only ask that you be as kind and forgiving to yourself as you are to everyone else.
((( guarding you as you work your way thru this week )))
Warm Hugs,
Alex
