Poll Do You Have Trouble Understanding Humour?

[sallysellsseashells]

*maybe some of us have undiagnosed autism? What is it? I don't know a lot about it.

 

[2notbedefeated]

I'm not good at responding to humor. My kids usually ask me why I didn't laugh, or they will say they were just trying to be funny. Kids tell me I needed to lighten up an laugh once in a while. I tend to be way to serious minded. It's not good.

I have been trying to cut up and be alittle silly and when I do, others don't know how to take it. They can't tell if I'm being funny or serious. It's pretty bad, I so need to work on this.

I do have one friend (truly only one, besides my husband who knows what I'm going through) who came from a verbal and emotionally abusive home. I never use to know how to repeat a joke and talk about something funny. Frankly I don't really try too hard.

With this friend, however, I get kind of silly in sharing how I wished I had said that or done this in response to what another person did to me that day, or something odd that happened, and I would say it in way to try and be funny, and she is the only one who laughs with me about these things. She is the only one that gets it. I can't seem to get anyone else in my life to laugh.

Isn't that kind of strange? I must be strange, even my husband doesn't laugh when I try to be funny.

 

[Salu]

Sometimes I do, but I think its mostly because of emotional numbing. I have hard time laughing over others, I don´t know, it just makes me uncomfortable, I tend to put myself in their shoes. And very direct stuff, "pie in the face" thing. There is just nothing funny about playing with food. Period.

 

[midi]

I am very serious and intense. My humour tends to be dark and morbid. I also laugh hysterically at some things that are only slightly funny, which raises the odd eyebrow.

 

[fin]

OK I thought about the humour poll and I read some (as many as I could) of the postings.
And this is the only way at the moment that I can find to answer this question... I get a lot of humour...I get jokes often. I get sarcasm and knocking and self deprecating stuff.
But what I dont get is someone dressing something up and then saying they were joking and that I have no sense of humour. And then pointing out that I "do have a problem" after-all!!
And while this may sound perhaps like I dont have a sense of humour I am referring to when something is said to me and I attempt to maybe challenge what has been said to me.
Example; support worker visits me out of hours at the weekend and "jokes" that no-one knows that HE is there and he could say or do anything.
I felt the little hairs on the back of my neck stand. and I pretty much froze. I backed away somewhat akwardly and was able to continue to make him a coffee and chat and then after being hugged and him stroking my hair (which I have to say I do miss the physical closeness of someone) usher him out of the door.
It took me two weeks to be able to address this with him. And I do have reasons (which he knows about) for feeling weird at what he said, I expressed this or rather I reminded him of them. And then was told that he was joking and where had my sense of humour gone.
I am shaking my head as I write this as I am pretty much getting the idea that I wasnt wrong in being worried.
The only problem is (well apart from the fact that this is someone that supports me) I have started to make up excuses for him... perhaps he is trying to desensitize me (i know I didnt spell that right-sorry). Perhaps this is part of my treatment (nope). maybe I could say something(-no way in hell).
This is something I have to try to work through I cannot change people now...I cant afford to start again. And he knows that I have had trouble in the past with this kind of thing.
So is it possible I have no-sense of humour?

 

[Lucycat]

I have a 'different' sense of humour. I find a lot of jokes unfunny. Many I simply don't understand why it is supposed to be funny. There are other things that I do genuinely find amusing, but when I tell others about it they look at me blankly.

I often tell people that I have no sense of humour,but it is not something most people understand. It is as if they think if you try harder you will see the joke. A bit like suggesting if I were to try harder I could be an Opera Singer - I don't think so, Put simply it is a talent I don't have.

 

[Changing4Best]

I don't always find guys' humor to be funny. If it is about sex, count me OUT! My daddy had a great sense of humor and my mom had zilch when it came to humor. So, sometimes I find things funny and sometimes I don't, I guess. I suppose that is taking after my parents both, in a way.

 

[Abstract]

I think there is a difference between understanding humour and what we each individually find funny. I am very good at understanding all humour and have a very healthy sense of humour even though certain types are not my "thing". Like slapstick is not my favourite. It must be very confusing sometimes Batgirl.

 

[cherryblossom]

It must be very confusing sometimes Batgirl.

Just so you are aware, Batgirl is no longer an active forum member (last activity 2009).

 

[aka]

With me I guess it is the type of humor. I enjoy and engage in sarcastic and satire forms of humor but usually fail in grasping the everyday run of the mill jokes. I usually do not grasp them for one of three reasons: 1. I see the joke in a too literal perceptive 2. I understand the joke but don't find it funny or 3. I have no idea what the joke is referencing.

 

[therapybankrupt]

The humor I have trouble with is passive aggressive humor! Hurtful not funny!

 

[who am i kim]

I have severe loss of hearing, I do not get jokes as I can't follow the nuances or intonations as that is something I do not have . I cannot tell a man's voice from a woman's voice basically my hearing is all on one level when most people can hear the variances. I cannot. So when people speak I just take it literal. I can only see by body language and only in close relatives whether they are leading me on. I only found out a few years ago that the men and women had different pitch in voice when trying on a new hearing aid.

Hope I made sense here.:sorry: