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HëllaBubz
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Mum n dad had a massive wedding in the Melbourne police chapel with 300 guests.
Mum wants me to get married in a garden here in Melbourne so that it's no fuss and easy for her and everyone else.
Going back a fair while, my siblings and I were very young, and we 'experimented' which my discovered and held over our heads as a sources of blackmail.
My father then went and told my mother's best friend who told her daughter who was my best friend.
When I was enrolled in upper highschool, the first question I heard was, "aren't you the chic that screwed her brother?"
Basically she had told the entire high school, and then after spending my first day taunted as miserable, she walked up to me with two of her friends trailing her and told me that she had told everyone that we weren't friends and I was not to tell anyone that we were friends and that she wanted nothing to do with me.
This may sound like trivial things of a teen girl, but I had known my best friend since I was 6 months old.
Back to the present, on Saturday night I had a horrific nightmare about her, and given that her brother and I still get on well, and I want him to photograph the wedding, I mentioned in the car whether or not he would come, and that I didn't want her to come to either my engagement party or wedding, it would ruin my whole day.
My father responded by telling me to get over it, she hadn't done anything to me, if she had, I had done worse etc.
Given that I had gone out for a coffee with her a year ago to basically try to move on, and be told politely that anything in the past she had moved on from (I didn't even hint at the topic, it was a pleasantly neutral affair), dad's response really shat me off.
Basically told him, after the first, "excuse me, get over it?" To "put a cork in it, you just said you don't even know what she did, so don't offer an opinion on something you know nothing about."
He replied saying that "anything she did do would be lessened if I thought about some of the things I had done".
So I told him to hold his opinion on topics he was ignorant upon.
Given that he used to blackmail us kids with the topic, ie if we didn't do something then "how would you feel if x found out about this? You are disgusting and she/he would be disgusted/ horrified/ cry."
Lets just say I don't hold onto it, but I'll never forget it either, especially the response of my little sister who was sensitive and used to cry and acquiesce to his demands.
And so the shit begins.
Mum wants me to get married in a garden here in Melbourne so that it's no fuss and easy for her and everyone else.
Going back a fair while, my siblings and I were very young, and we 'experimented' which my discovered and held over our heads as a sources of blackmail.
My father then went and told my mother's best friend who told her daughter who was my best friend.
When I was enrolled in upper highschool, the first question I heard was, "aren't you the chic that screwed her brother?"
Basically she had told the entire high school, and then after spending my first day taunted as miserable, she walked up to me with two of her friends trailing her and told me that she had told everyone that we weren't friends and I was not to tell anyone that we were friends and that she wanted nothing to do with me.
This may sound like trivial things of a teen girl, but I had known my best friend since I was 6 months old.
Back to the present, on Saturday night I had a horrific nightmare about her, and given that her brother and I still get on well, and I want him to photograph the wedding, I mentioned in the car whether or not he would come, and that I didn't want her to come to either my engagement party or wedding, it would ruin my whole day.
My father responded by telling me to get over it, she hadn't done anything to me, if she had, I had done worse etc.
Given that I had gone out for a coffee with her a year ago to basically try to move on, and be told politely that anything in the past she had moved on from (I didn't even hint at the topic, it was a pleasantly neutral affair), dad's response really shat me off.
Basically told him, after the first, "excuse me, get over it?" To "put a cork in it, you just said you don't even know what she did, so don't offer an opinion on something you know nothing about."
He replied saying that "anything she did do would be lessened if I thought about some of the things I had done".
So I told him to hold his opinion on topics he was ignorant upon.
Given that he used to blackmail us kids with the topic, ie if we didn't do something then "how would you feel if x found out about this? You are disgusting and she/he would be disgusted/ horrified/ cry."
Lets just say I don't hold onto it, but I'll never forget it either, especially the response of my little sister who was sensitive and used to cry and acquiesce to his demands.
And so the shit begins.
