Relationship I'm The Trigger For His Ptsd

[JennJenn]

I have been spending a lot of my time researching and understanding PTSD. I have come to learn that PTSD sufferer has certain things that trigger anxiety, nightmares, and flashbacks. Most of the time the relationship of person with PTSD suffers because of these symptoms.

In my sufferers case the trigger for him is a relationship itself. Being emotionally connected to another person causes him to become anxious, have nightmares, and flashbacks. When he is not in a relationship these symptoms will almost go away completely for him. Especially the longer that he has been since he was in a relationship.

It is very difficult knowing that him loving me causes him pain. He can handle a relationship for about 8 weeks before the symptoms become too much for him to take. He has been told by multiple doctors that he will never have a normal relationship again because of his PTSD.

I want to continue to try different therapies with him, but he doesn't feel like they will help. I truly want to continue to work on a relationship with him, but I feel so guilty knowing that I cause him pain and suffering. Part of me feels like if I told him I could no longer be there for him, he would be happy to let me go. I do not know what the right thing is to do.

 

[Nicolette]

Part of me feels like if I told him I could no longer be there for him, he would be happy to let me go.

Sometimes loving someone is letting them go.... sorry :hug:

 

[Badger]

And then he would want you back...

 

[JennJenn]

I have no doubt that he would want me back. We both keep coming back to the relationship, but I know I tell him I'm done. He will not try to come back into my life because he will think he is doing me a favor by staying away.