I Need Some Input From Sufferers

[Sandi79]

I guess from what I saw, she just got divorced..and frankly he is too nice..and she asked him if he was ready to marry me yet

Its ok that he wasn't. Although he said he was to me.

He does some stupid things. He is nice to everyone, he tries to help people. I get talking to people, I talk to a lot of people including ex's of mine. I dont get jealous, he knows this. It was just for him to reply like that and then try lying on the phone about it. It made me mad

 

[Sandi79]

I wish he had cheated. I wish he had lied and said he had cheated. I told him that last night on the phone, that I wish he had done it so I could move on

 

[nursenurse]

I dunno, my Spidey senses are up, always better with someone else rather than me, lol. I think, and I could be totally wrong, that he has been covering his tracks. At any rate, if you think something is wrong, it usually is. I honestly would steer clear for now. Something isn't right, and it will reveal itself in time. The more you search for answers, sometimes, the more you keep yourself embroiled, the harder it becomes to extricate yourself, simply because you won't know which end is up.

 

[Sandi79]

I have come to the decision that it doesnt matter. Im done

 

[nursenurse]

I think it is the better way to go. Otherwise, you don't let go.

 

[Sandi79]

He keeps texting about mundane things..like how he had chinese for dinner. I just said I was busy and would text him later

 

[nursenurse]

Block him. Or just don't answer. He won't know you mean business otherwise.

 

[EvenStrongerNow]

Have you experienced situations such as this or similar with him before?

 

[Sandi79]

Yes. Every time he does this disappearing act, he does this.

 

[EvenStrongerNow]

What was the solution last time?

 

[Sandi79]

The last time, he had left because we had been arguing a lot. That time I really thought I was to blame. He said he just wanted me to not get so upset with him all the time, to just come and talk to him. He said that he felt "worthless coming home to you" because he didn't know if I would be upset with him about something. I took it seriously. I worked on me, I didn't get upset or angry after that. And things were really good..until last Thursday. And I did get upset with him Thursday , but not over something little. He possibly had what could be a serious physical health issue and said if he did, he would not treat it, he would rather just die from it. I got emotional and told him to think of his daughter.

This isn't like last time in the fact that this time, I don't know how I made him feel bad about himself. Last time I took all the blame, this time I wont.

 

[EvenStrongerNow]

Well, I understand why you are upset from what you've. It's you who came online here for the support. I don't know either of you and I don't know all of the details of the situation, but you have to do what's best for you. It sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders from what I can tell.

I hope you find some peace soon. Sorry it has been so difficult for you.