Relationship After An Isolation

[abs_21]

So My partner has PTSD and bipolar 2, he left two months ago went Into isolation.

We went to a veterans out reach appointment on Tuesday and he seems to be on a level now and coping with things better. This co insides with him seeing me more. We spend a day together every week doing relationship type things although he still is unable to talk about us or what happened.

I guess I'm looking to find out other peoples experiences of when their partner surfaces. Does trust need to be rebuild? Does it take time for them to feel comfortable again, does it usually have to start from the beginning and slowly? Or is this a sign that he doesn't feel the same anymore ? This is the longest he has isolated before it would be a day or two and he'd come back and apologise and we'd go back to things as nothing had happened. He was medicated before though now he's not and hasn't been for 6 months although like I say he does seem to be I control of his stress

 

[Justmehere]

I guess I'm looking to find out other peoples experiences of when their partner surfaces. Does trust need to be rebuild? Does it take time for them to feel comfortable again, does it usually have to start from the beginning and slowly? Or is this a sign that he doesn't feel the same anymore ?

I'm a sufferer and whenever I take a break from people, it really varies what happens when I re-join the relationship. I don't think things ever really start all over at the beginning for me. Sometimes it does take time. The other person can help me through it, and so can therapy, using lots of coping and grounding skills, and just challenging myself to keep trying to stick it out longer.

His actions could be because of his PTSD symptoms and those symptoms can change how someone feels about someone. It can also just be the PTSD symptoms and not have anything to do with his feelings towards you. Sometimes it is hardest to be close to the people I care about the most. Sometimes I shut down the most with people I care about the most.

How are you doing with it all?

 

[abs_21]

Thank you for your reply.

I'm doing OK I think. I'm having counselling for myself which has helped.

I miss him and I love him and it hurts that we can spend time together as if nothing has happened then for him to go.