I Don't Know What To Do?

[Philippa]

Feeling pretty disturbed right now.

I logged onto facebook and a friend had posted an article with an image of a man who sexually assaulted two women up the road from where I live. The image looks so much like my little brother it's uncanny. I don't know that it is him of course, and we aren't in touch. I haven't spoken to him in ages, and am reluctant to call and ask him. If he did it he's not going to be telling me?

I'd be surprised if it were him. I've never known him to be this way, though he always had a disrespect for women that I couldn't work out where it came from until I got older and realised my father is narcissistic and has a disdain for women in general. He tried to get me to do a porn movie, with him filming it the last few times I saw him...and friends said that he was probably on ice when he said that to me, as that is what ice does. He didn't remember even saying it??

I don't know what to do here and it's messing with me. I'm also menstrual at the moment so trying not to let my mood get all crazy.

 

[Philippa]

Maybe it isn't him and just someone who looks similar? I hope so. I can't very well call him up after a year of no contact and ask if he sexually assaulted two women!

 

[macbeth]

I think I know the image that you're talking about as I am in Victoria too. What has you most worried at the moment?

 

[Philippa]

I think I know the image that you're talking about as I am in Victoria too. What has you most worried at the moment?

That he did it!

I called crime stoppers. He hates cops. He's a drug dealer and has ties with some bad dudes. He's not gonna like that someone gave his name and address to crime stoppers. If he didn't do it then she assured me they'll just waste his time. He's no stranger to cops, so he probably won't suspect that I gave him up. He doesn't know where I live anyway.

I guess I was worried that I was being disloyal, but also scared that if he finds out it was me I'm in trouble . But really, I felt recently that he considers me to be dead to him for cutting ties with my parents, so do I really even owe him loyalty? He was a total asshole to me for years.

 

[macbeth]

Sorry got a bit confused when I read your original post. Again apologies. You've done an incredibly brave thing ringing crime stoppers.

 

[macbeth]

I re read your post and I realize now that it WAS a stupid question. I really didn't mean to cause you any distress.

 

[Philippa]

[DOUBLEPOST=1400140984,1400140902][/DOUBLEPOST]I had this voice telling me I'm a traitor...but if it was him then he needs to be caught and held accountable. I don't exactly have much faith in the justice system, or cops for that matter, but in this case there's no getting around community obligation. I'm one of those women who walks home on my own at night. Sydney road is a dodgy area. I don't know why any woman would walk on her own at night there. I used to live there and it isn't like the rest of melbourne.[DOUBLEPOST=1400141300][/DOUBLEPOST]

I re read your post and I realize now that it WAS a stupid question. I really didn't mean to cause you any distress.

You didn't. :)

Don't worry about it. I was already a bit distressed from seeing his face on facebook as being someone who did that!

 

[macbeth]

You're not a traitor you're really courageous.

 

[Philippa]

I feel a bit numb now. There's no way he would find out it was me, and if he did it then he deserves to get caught. If he didn't then hopefully they won't dig further into his world because they would find plenty to bust him on if they did.

 

[Philippa]

Now I'm really stressing.

I looked my brother up on facebook and found his band alias. (he's in a rap band) He posted the link about the attacks!!?? Now my head is really spinning. No one mentioned that the image resembled him! I don't know what to think now? I feel like I f*cked up really badly. Why would he post it on his own official band site knowing how similar he resembles the guy in the pic?

Now I feel really f*cking bad for even thinking it might be him. I'm confused.

 

[macbeth]

It does seem a bit strange that anyone would post a link to a story like that.
I wish I knew what to say to you to bring some comfort but I'm not very good with words. I will say that I am really thinking of you at this time and even if you just need to get you thoughts out I can listen:hug:.:hug:Lots of hugs your way.

 

[digger]

You did what you needed to do. His choice of lifestyle is just that, a choice. If he chooses to deal drugs and this ends up leading to him getting in shit for that, that's down to his choices, not yours. He knows the risks of that.

 

[Pencil]

I'm a traitor

You're not. Think of the victims. If he is guilty then your silence would have betrayed the two women.

Sorry to say, but your comments about him (drugs, highly inappropriate requests :eek:) make me think he is a candidate for this type of act.