How Do You Deal With Hypocrites?

[J_trustno1]

In 2007, I fell in love with a guy over the internet. However, that guy was just fooling around with my emotions which I found out at the end of 2008. Lets cut this story short and get to what happened in between.

While I was in a virtual relationship with this guy over the internet (Note: there was no cam sex or anything involved, it was more of a platonic relationship with my emotions invested), I had a friend that went to the same Tertiary institute as I did and I thought of him as a good friend and a well-wisher - i saw him as an older brother. I told this friend about my virtual relationship with this guy who lived overseas. This friend of mine told me not to fall for this etc etc and was warning me and telling me how i am betraying my family (I was 19 then). I kinda listened to this friend and didn't trust this guy. He (my friend) told me that he does not believe in internet relationships and he will never fall for one, he thought they were just stupid fake relationships.

However, now I came to find out that same friend is engaged to a girl, whom he met over the internet. They never met each other till the beginning of this year and now he is engaged.

The things that pissed me off is that he is such a hypocrite in telling me that he does not believe in internet relationships and now he is marrying someone off the internet? Huh!! Why the hell did he gave me all those lectures and advices of life when he himself never followed them? How would you deal with such person who says something else and does something else?


Argh,, this question was supposed to be in the discussion section sorry I misread it and wrote a thread in depression.

 

[Tanishq]

Jess, some people are like that. Hypocrites always leave their mark of hypocrisy. Whatever they say, they have habit of ignoring that or do something exact opposite of whatever they say. I avoid unless there is an emergency to deal with them. You can't reason with such people.

It is like trying to wake up someone who is pretending to be asleep. They never speak truth. They lie a lot to make up things.

Does this help?

I know they can provoke you with words. Mess with your mind, judge you a lot. It takes time to let them go off.

One more thing I will say, they always try to seek for attention. If you don't give them any attention they go away.

Hope you feel well soon and I assure you will get over this. More kind hugs to you :hug:

 

[J_trustno1]

He judged me then. He was 2 yrs older than. He always gave me lectures about life. He confused me and he always thought he knows everything in life and is at a better place in maturity than I am. He deleted me on facebook and then sent me anonymous texts and when I asked who it was he was rude to me! I was like WTF!! I hate this kind of people!

 

[Tanishq]

He always gave me lectures about life.

This is common in hypocrites. They always like to lecture people. I have faced plenty off in my life, but not now anymore as I don't feed them any attention.

Talking to them is almost like trying to make reasoning with fools. Fools bring you to their level and beat you with experiences. I don't know what's worst being hypocrite or a fool.

He confused me

They know what it takes to you confuse you, why? because they like to show they are superior than others. They are often kind of delusional people.

he knows everything in life

When people tell me they know everything in life. I run. I don't believe that. No one knows everything. No one. This is some kind of truth. I learned this quickly. It brings me peace.

He deleted me on facebook and then sent me anonymous texts and when I asked who it was he was rude to me! I was like WTF!! I hate this kind of people!

Kindly let him go. Btw his wife may be like him. Hypocrite! Like attracts like. ;)

Is this helping you Jess?

 

[J_trustno1]

Yes Tansihq. Just very upset atm. Too many things going on life, firstly abusers, secondly this hypocrite and thirdly rejections from jobs. Feeling like a failure in life. I really want to cry at the moment. :( :(

 

[Tanishq]

Hang in there Jess. You have this forums' support. :hug:

 

[macbeth]

warning me and telling me how i am betraying my family

What @Tanishq said is spot on Jess! I went to a Christian school and was taught all the things I shouldn't being doing and then watching all the adults do just that!!! It does exist and it is frustrating but I think you have to find your own way in life. Find your own truth. Advice given from experience to help is ok but when you are told what to do or told you are bringing shame on your family that's not ok. :hug:

 

[J_trustno1]

But I'm very confused right now @macbeth . I feel that I will never meet a decent guy. I have lost of my chances in meeting someone in life. I feel that I will be stuck in my room for the rest of my life with no career, no future, no partner, no kids, no further education. I feel I will be seeing my abusers making a victory my failure. Feeling very crap right now.

 

[Tanishq]

I shouldn't being doing and then watching all the adults do just that!!!

macbeth and jess, this reminded me of something very funny. Those who say they are the most mature people are the most immature. I don't know what to tell them. I don't know if this is height of hyprocrisy or not. It's a truth about themselves.

Mature people don't react, they respond. Reaction and responding has very much difference.

Hypocrites always react to everything they hear/see because they have ego of knowing everything.

Sometimes this all make me laugh. In their mind, they are also never wrong. Always right. :laugh:

 

[Tanishq]

You know life is very interesting thing. After every night day rises. After every tough moments/phases in our life, good/golden moments do come. I am listening to you Jess. Take your time to process this all, I believe in you. You will rise. :hug:

 

[macbeth]

I'm sorry you feel so down Jess. I remember when my daughters were young and one night in particular my then husband had just thrown me down the stairs. (He was very violent and had happened many times before). He then took off in the car, my kids were screaming etc. and I prayed that he run of the road and hit a tree. I saw no other solution. I never thought the abuse would end. Somehow though I got through it and a few years later I'm still here. My point is that though it doesn't feel like it can get better right now it will in time. Sometimes you've just got to hold on tight and not give up and from what you've told me I know that you're hard working and very determined and you deserve the best!

 

[J_trustno1]

Thanks Macbeth, it means a lot to me. I just can't seem to stop crying. Every job rejection does this and every time I see people getting married on facebook makes me wonder whether something is lacking in me that I have not met anyone. Not trying to sound desperate but I am feeling a complete waste of space right now. I just can't stop crying. I don't know what will make me happy anymore.