As They Say, "we're Beating A Dead Horse Now."

[Numbalina]

Is it only me, or do you all feel like you need to hear the same thing over and over again, said differently, said the same, and again. All before you can accept someone else's words as concrete? My SO calls it "mind f'ing" it. We will talk about the same thing over and over again, saying it differently (as if to get another perspective, maybe?) until he's too tired to talk about it anymore or I've frustrated him and he's sick of talking about it. I think it has something to do with never getting my dad to accept me. Be proud. To approve of me and my choices, whatever they may be, without judgement.

I don't know, just thoughts running through my head at 3 am. You know, the usual.

 

[Purplemunchkin]

As a supporter I find this interesting as hubby will go over and over the same things, and on some days I really struggle with it.

I think it has something to do with never getting my dad to accept me. Be proud. To approve of me and my choices, whatever they may be, without judgement.

But for him, this ^^ isn't an issue.

 

[jaccat]

For me it's trust. Do i trust anything you say to me? Don't be stupid!:cautious:

 

[KwanYingirl]

I do need things repeated over and over. I always assumed I have ADD but a Neuropsychologist said its due to PTSD. Difficulty with attention. In school I did well, but I had to read the material, hear the material, and write it out before it stuck. I drove my ex nuts, especially anything to do with cars. No matter how many times he explained how a car works, I couldn't repeat a thing. It's frustrating!!!

 

[GG-love]

For me I ask until I can understand it. I need to keep asking why until it makes sense. It sometimes feels like a compulsion, I keep asking instead of stopping and processing. I know it isn't always the best thing to do but I can't always seem to stop myself. This is especially true when it hits and emotional part of me. Or worse when there is nothing I can do about it. Its like I think by asking and getting more information I will be able to solve something.

 

[Friday]

Nope.

The only things I need repeated are those which are subject to change... When they change.

&

Things I don't understand.

 

[NarcSis]

I too think it's a trust thing and losing trust in the world in general is a consequence of instinctive survival activation in the brain as a result of PTSD. Husband and I "beat the dead horse" all the time and yeah, sometimes he gets frustrated with me. I'm an intelligent person, I'm highly educated, yet some concepts especially if they trigger my brain in any way require a lot of going over to solidify. An issue can be "settled" one day with me having a grasp or being comfortable with some knowledge then a day or week or month later, we're at it again on the same topic over again because the memory of it was lost in translation or something shifted out of it's position in my brain's storage locker somewhere.

This is something I've noticed about me since I developed PTSD...it even frustrates me at times because I get a sensation of "I should know this!" I usually just chalk it up to a cognitive impairment as a consequence of the PTSD and try to forgive myself for being "dense".

 

[illusionist]

I tend to pick at people's brains. It's not that I don't believe them, it's because somehow I need to get more information to process it. I remember a friend of mine was trying to teach me about computers...he would say do A, that will take you to B.....a normal instruction, but in order for me to remember it, I needed to know what the connection is from A to B....so you can imagine the lessons didn't last long.

 

[emz315]

@Numbalina omg i do this except as a supporter to my man. I think its just when his not in the best mind frame at the time...such as..him-"do we have to talk about this again we spoke in depth about it last week ..i dont want to argue bring the same s$%t up but in different meaning"...me-"sorry you feel like that but sometimes i need reassurance"....garrrr

 

[Momofthree]

I do this! It's a trust/ insecurity issue. My partner just sweetly tells me "You're doing the crazy brain thing again, silly." and then gives me a hug or a kiss on the forehead. (sorry if 'crazy' is a trigger for anyone, it really doesn't bother me I know what he means by it) and that tells me to just drop the subject and do my best to trust him. My most resent 'issue' is him moving in in May. Last night after we had talked for hours about him moving in I said to him "It's ok if you don't want to move in with me, I understand and don't mind." Note: he's never said he doesn't want to move in I'm just insecure and convened he's only moving in to make me happy. He just looked at me and said "Of course I want to move in, silly. Listen to my words not your crazy brain."

 

[Sweetpea76]

Listen to my words not your crazy brain

I need to have a tee shirt made with this on it.

 

[ghotiff]

Also. Some people process things verbally more than others. These personality types will want to verbally discuss things a lot.