This Is The Anniversary Of My Sons Death So Many Years Ago.

[Deleted member 12723]

I had forgotten what day this was. I miss my son so much still, he was quite a character. I have really healed from the loss of my only son. I still wish I could talk to him.

But I am doing ok. It was a bit of a shock to be reminded.

Next month is the two year anniversary of my husbands death. That will be harder to deal with.

Half of my own family is gone. I have one daughter and her two girls left of my family.

All of my relatives are dead or somewhere out in the world because I had to cut off contact from my family of origin because they were so toxic. I did it to protect my own family.

We had many happy years together, But no parent should outlive their child.

 

[Rumors]

I am so very sorry. I can't imagine loosing my child. Thinking of you and sending you prayers and strength.

 

[Deleted member 20280]

Dear @gizmo may I offer an empathetic :hug: my elder brother was lost to my parents when he was only six years old.

 

[seedling]

So glad they were happy years due to your action to protect your family. Sorry for your loss. It leaves such a hole.

 

[ButterflyDisco]

im very sorry to hear :cry: as per my status, this is the anniversary of my mommy's death too...such a sad day for the World to lose so many :cry:

 

[WildMermaid]

@gizmo and @ButterflyDisco holding you both in my heart. So very sorry for your loss.

 

[City Slicker]

You are so right @gizmo - no parent should outlive their child. It sounds like you admired your son for who he was? Perhaps you still talk to him but I also wish you could 'hear' his voice. So many losses. I am keeping good thoughts for you as you face all of this.

 

[Bees Are Awesome]

@gizmo Comforting and peaceful thoughts for you tonight. So sorry for your losses.

 

[Ruckster]

Anniversaries are so hard. Be strong.

 

[SeanCharles]

:hug: @gizmo and @ButterflyDisco May you both work through what is needed when it comes to dealing with the loss of loved ones. I am sure I don't have to gently remind you both that grief does contain five stages that aren't in any neat or specific order. Take each stage a day at a time and work through them one by one. Trying to avoid them only makes things much harder. These stages are for allowing us to move and grow.

As a reminder if I may, the five stages are:

1. Denial
2. Anger
3. Bargaining
4. Depression
5. Acceptance

There is a 6th stage which comes at the very end! That 6th stage is reaching out. This one is a great way to share your empathy and experience with others who experience a loss.


:hug:s offer again to both of you!

---SeanGeo

 

[scout86]

We had many happy years together

I'm glad you had that, but it's never enough, is it?

Sorry for your losses @gizmo ! I'm glad you had the courage to protect your immediate family from your family of origin.

:hug:

 

[ms spock]

Thinking of you gizmo.