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[Neela]

I'm just venting, so please don't take offense. About two weeks ago I found something that made me believe my BF had cheated on me. When I asked him about it, he openly admitted to cheating. He blamed it on his PTSD. It's the one line that he knew he couldn't cross with me and he did it. He then called me two days after his confession and tried to take it back. He said he lied to me? And again, he said it was because of his PTSD. He said that he felt stressed and he needed to take some time, so instead of saying so, he told me that he cheated?! I stopped taking his calls for a week. I just didn't think it was fair. How can he turn around and say he lied about the entire thing? This type of behavior is not ok. Whatever the truth is, whether he really did cheat or he lied about cheating, is beyond abusive. It's mean and hurtful. He's continually called me in the last two weeks begging for fogiveness. When I finally decided to talk to him, he said that I needed to get over it since it wasn't true. Who says that? Am I wrong to say that he's being a total jerk? I just had my mobile number changed because he won't leave me alone now. I've asked him repeatedly for some time to think things through and figure things out and he just won't leave me alone. This time I've asked him for some space and he refuses to to respect my wishes. Why is it ok for him to cross the line? Why is ok for him to deliberately hurt me over and over? Again, I'm venting so please don't get offended. I'm hurting and sad and it totally sucks to be in this situation. I've put up with so much and I feel like crap knowing this is the end result of what was once a beautiful relationship. It's tainted. And he expects me to be get over it and be the same person I was two weeks ago? How is that even possible?

 

[Nicolette]

Am I wrong to say that he's being a total jerk?

Based on what you are saying Neela...yes he is being a jerk. PTSD is not an excuse for any of the behaviour you have mentioned IMHO.

 

[xxarmywifexx]

I agree with Nicolette, having PTSD doesn't make you forget or excuses for breaking people boundries. Not to mention that isn't what you do in a caring relationship. You are fine in how you feel. Listen to youself and don't let him use that as an excuse.

You are in my thoughts.

-xxarmywifexx

 

[blue_eyed_angel]

This is his disease not yours!! And your #1 priority should be you!!! You are absolutely right in knowing that this type of behavior is not right nor should you accept it!! Cheating is an absolute deal breaker for me. Once that damage has been done it's not that easy to get over and sometimes you don't. I know that I have been cheated on and that's it. I will end the relationship right then and there no matter what the excuses are. You should really think hard about what you want for you in your life. I hope that everything works out well for you. I will be thinking about you.

*~blue_eyed_angel~*