Relationship Please Help Me.

[Redwish.]

Self loathing is a symptom of PTSD. You know... sometimes just relaxing and taking things easy does w...

Right! And that's why I've kinda been trying to give him space because I don't want to put more stress on him with the relationship.

 

[Redwish.]

Another thing he's been telling me is how he'll never be able to feel what I feel, and he's emotionally numb.

 

[Sweetpea76]

Emotional numbing is a symptom too.

 

[Pebbles5280]

My NavyDoc routinely tells me I should "run in the opposite direction as fast as I can". He's so emotionally numb, he doesn't think he will ever be able to feel anything. The next week, he seems better and we go forward.

Welcome to the rollercoaster.

 

[Redwish.]

My NavyDoc routinely tells me I should "run in the opposite direction as fast as I can". He's so emo...

Yes! He told me to leave also because he doesn't think he'll ever be able to have those feelings for me. How do you deal with it?

 

[Redwish.]

Emotional numbing is a symptom too.

Is there anything I can do?

 

[Pebbles5280]

@Redwish, at first I was very upset thinking it meant he didn't love me or want to be with me. I realized that couldn't be further from the truth so I started looking him straight in the face and telling him that I love him and I'm not leaving. If he doesn't want to be with me, he needs to leave me. It may not work for everyone but it seems to be just what he needs to hear and we're ok again.

 

[Redwish.]

@Redwish, at first I was very upset thinking it meant he didn't love me or want to be with me. I rea...

Thank you, that helps!

 

[Sweetpea76]

Is there anything I can do?

You have to realize that it's not about you, it is about his symptoms. You didn't give him PTSD, and unless you remind him of his trauma, you are not a trigger. The relationship is a stressor, and if he is willing to work on it, he will eventually learn to manage his stressors better. If everything is hunky-dory, then the next day he wants you to "find a better man", then you need to realize it is not because of you or anything you did.