Relationship Serious Question, Even Though It Sounds Like A Joke

[Justmehere]

:hug: journey31 - If you can't do it, you can't do it. It seems like a wise decision.

If he does I'm going to tell him I'm done. If he doesn't, then it's obvious.

It's actually not obvious unless you tell him. Gently, but clearly and directly. He could interpret your not contacting him to mean a million things other than the relationship being over. He could interpret it to mean nothing at all. Give him the respect of telling him the relationship is over. Give it to yourself as well.

 

[Friday]

Give him the respect of telling him the relationship is over. Give it to yourself as well.

True, that.

 

[Brknangel45]

Yeah. I've recently (past few days) decided I can't do this anymore. I haven't even tried to contact h...

Hi and sorry for the confusion but might I add that he may be "isolating".... common in PTSD when triggered and early phases. I would say to be cautious in just attributing this to him being a man, not all of it could be that or just PTSD, perhaps a combination of both? Just food for thought.

How long has he been diagnosed with PTSD and is he getting treatment? There is a video series that Anthony posted in the supporters section that would be very helpful, it gives alot of information.
Be safe, be patient and be prepared by educating yourself. It's a very tough battle and frustrating and in no way a " normal" relationship.....I told myself that all expectations I had of him, me and "Us" no longer apply.
Not sure how helpful I was and sorry if it sounded short, try to remain positive and take care if you.

 

[journey31]

:hug: journey31 - If you can't do it, you can't do it. It seems like a wise decision.

It's actually...

The last contact we had was me asking to see him and him telling me he's too busy to make time for me. I take that as him ending it. But I could be wrong.

 

[journey31]

Hi and sorry for the confusion but might I add that he may be "isolating".... common in PTSD when tr...

He's not getting help. And he had had some recent major events. Deaths in his department.
I'm just sick of begging for his attention. And him refusing.
That's why I'm trying to give him space.
But I don't know if that's the right way with ptsd or not.