What Would You Call This?

[Adadic]

I'm going to talk to my therapist about this because it's seriously triggering me and I know I can't think through all the aspects of it clearly.

Very VERY good idea (didnt know you had a therapist or i would have mentioned doing that; I discuss EVERYTHING with mine to know im not over/under reacting and to know how to change my own reactions to situations.) But see something say something (which is popular here in the US though APPARENTLY not taken seriously as child abusers, such as very rich and was always around children, the former Subway guy Jared Fogal whom is the POSTERCHILD for how to groom a child and mapped it out in a series of phone calls which was played out on 2 Dr Phil shows by one brave woman (police tapped calls). But see something say something doesnt always mean see. The saying came out basically to say if you see or HEAR ABOUT anything say it instead of being too scared to. Rather be wrong and make a fool out of myself than to be right but not say anything and the grooming is completed and a girl(s) ends up abused. The BIGGEST thing in this is he does it often and DENIED it. I would personally the cops what exactly was told to me and by whom so that person can be interview whom obviosuly either saw it or is the girl it happened to. And you do this UNTIL; until proven wrong and he didnt do it or until he did and authorities take action.

I was also triggered last night; this is why i got upset and so just went to bed but talking to your therapist is a great idea as they can give you the most rational information and solution/possible action not looking through this filter that us abuse survivers have.

 

[Iju]

Please pl please don't listen to anyone saying it's not unwanted sexual touch - it definitely IS and it could get worse. The guy needs reported.

 

[Abaw]

please don't listen to anyone saying it's not unwanted sexual touch - it definitely IS and it could get worse. The guy needs reported.

Amen to this! Why NOT say anything? So what if no one believes. Id rather be not believed and hopefully be wrong than to speak up (and i would hound every one including cops and local child protective services until inveatigated AND until it is either proven wrong and its not happeni g or right and action is taken) then to not say anything and more innocent girls/boys are molested/sexually assulted/raped!

 

[Ofud]

So I had a heart to heart talk with my friend, who assures me that this girl is NOT like us (who were abused and tend to freeze and not be able to speak up for ourselves) and that if anything were happening, she would absolutely have brought it up and been loud and vehement about it.

Also looked up what constitutes sexual abuse in my area, and this would not be covered. Creepy, yes, but not considered abuse.

I do realize there is the possibility her way of looking at this is biased, so I do plan on getting a second opinion on whether this is true. I will also talk to my therapist, and if all that still leaves me with any doubt, I have someone else in mind to talk to.

I appreciate everyone's help with this. I'm going to take a step back for a little bit though because I was so badly triggered last night.

 

[Wipo]

Also looked up what constitutes sexual abuse in my area, and this would not be covered. Creepy, yes, but not considered abuse.

Do me a favor (i will also back off as i dont want to trigger someone) but PLEASE ask your therapist if this could possibly be the start of grooming, i dont think its abuse, i think its grooming and if he's not aiming for this loud girl then he will be aiming for someone else, in my opinion and if cops were called in my area of the US about some creepy guy pinching the butts of teenage underage girls, he would be charged with some minor charge but with something. Its not nothing, its the start or continuing behavior of grooming.

 

[Powivum]

I will do some asking around and see whether he is spending time with any other young girls. And my therapist is a wise person. He will help me find truth and balance here.

 

[Ipo]

And my therapist is a wise person. He will help me find truth and balance here.

Im sure he is and will help you find the truth and balance in this situation and thank you for being concerned and asking about it here! Good luck to you about this!

 

[Ufurub]

I'm surprised to read it isn't abuse in your area, that needs changing pronto!

 

[Mepof]

This guy pinching a little girls ass. f*cking creepy.

Then, when the guy is confronted about his behaviour. He denies doing anything. Which makes me think either he is grooming the girl. Or he believes that your friend will kill him if she learns about it. Either way he knew it was a bad thing to do before the first time he did it. This guy has "filthy human garbage" tattooed on his forehead.

Someone should talk to this guy by hand.

If for some reason your friend still doesn't listen. I would have to introduce a new rule to the "Pedophilic Loser Little Girl Bum Touch Game".
As it is very rude to invite someone over, then ignore the guest he should be entertaining. Feel free to come up with something of your own, you think is fair.

This is my suggestion:
The guy is trying to not be caught pinching the girls bum. You're trying to catch him. When you do catch him pinching the girls bum, you then are allowed to pinch his bum, as hard as you can, with a pair of pliers.

 

[Ocadu]

If not child abuse, then sexual harassment or bullying. Report it to authorities. He HAS a record of something, somewhere.

There is always more than what only you know about. Always. Everyone is waiting for everyone else to report what they know. Databases solve a lot of this. So does HR. Not as slow as police because they don't want to get sued.

Anthony said, a long time ago, write a letter to the MF's employer. They have a file on this guy a mile long for sexual harassment, do they not? He will be far less able to wow teenage girls without a job. They don't need to go by anything other then their professional standards and policies. They can fire his ass. See how that feels.