What Makes Some People Irresistible?

[Queen Boudica]

Well Forbes have released a list of things you need to do to make yourself irresistible to other people. Since I seem to be the complete opposite though I would take a read. Found it a bit nauseating but maybe some good points there? Or are they? Find myself wondering what do others think make people irresistible. Is it that easy, just do all those things and you become irresistible?

http://www.forbes.com/sites/travisb...-secrets-of-irresistible-people/#58fa589b5af3

 

[Fadeaway]

I don't think that makes people irresistible able all. I think some of those things make people downright intimidating.
I don't know, I guess I know that sociopaths can fake those things very well. I am more likely to trust someone who is a bit socially awkward than someone who is too smooth.

 

[ladee]

The last thing on the planet I want to be is irresistible.!!! :arghh; I try to be invisible most of the time. But guess the suggestions are good if they don't come across contrived.... I think you are awesome just the way you are !!! Pbftttt on being irresistible :roflmao:

 

[Queen Boudica]

I know that sociopaths can fake those things very well. I am more likely to trust someone who is a bit socially awkward than someone who is too smooth.

Yes! See that was what I was thinking, very good sociopaths know how to fake all that, my ex does so many of those things as he knows it gets him adoration. Yer very wary of too smooth. Looking for genuine and genuine people are flawed, you can't be like that perfect image all the time. It is exhausting anyway I think. Problem is with other awkward people like me, we are so awkward we can't sum up the courage to talk to each other, so some of these points are good ice breakers I think.

 

[Queen Boudica]

The last thing on the planet I want to be is irresistible.!!! :arghh; I try to be invisible most of the time.

Yes guess irresistible is rather a narcissistic term really. Just want to feel like not alien and on the outside. I find in groups i can try and do those things, but it is like I am invisible everyone else drowns me out and I just then freeze or I feel like stupid because I try to hard and it is not natural because guess what? I don't have confidence and self-esteem and I can't just make it grow. Maybe one on one?

 

[lostforgottensoul]

I sorta like the list for "the best man on the planet" lol.

One of my many issues: They Recognize The Difference Between Fact And Opinion

I dont want to be "irrestiable" whatever the f*ck that is, im still trying to just be "normal" and figuring out what that is.

 

[Queen Boudica]

One of my many issues: They Recognize The Difference Between Fact And Opinion

Yes I found that one questionable, when they are quoting things like vaccination and climate change. These are not things that are driven by opinions, it is science. Well that's my opinion (thought I had better add that). If you have to put a climate change is my opinion when you know it is based on solid science, sort of justifies someone else's ignorance??? Maybe that is one of the reasons I am so unpopular? Ugh

 

[lostforgottensoul]

Yes I found that one questionable, when they are quoting things like vaccination and climate change...

I have no issue w/ talking politics, religon, climate change whatever; im open minded & i research/self teach for better facts in my opinions.

Say ONE bad OPINION of me; my brain takes that in as FACT; thats my issue...

 

[ladee]

I have learned to relax more in groups, in real life, but still prefer fewer people at a time. I am so hyper vigilant, so groups exhaust me. Not everyone has to be the 'head turner' when they enter a room... I feel that would be so intrusive for me. And @Queen Boudica I agree that it seems narcissistic. But you owning your social qualms, that is self esteem building if you let it be.... realizing our limitations.. And self esteem comes. Don't give up on yourself..I would rather be around someone like you than some arrogant *sshole.. At least I would know you were being real.... I could connect with you. Not near enough real connections in the world we live in.... so that would be a good thing !!! Friendship :hug:'s if you accept them...

 

[Queen Boudica]

Ha for opinions I like the quote from Dr Sawyer (Robin Williams) in awakenings "I'm sorry, if you were right, I would agree with you." Then walk away. :-) No I would NEVER do that.

 

[Queen Boudica]

And self esteem comes. Don't give up on yourself..I would rather be around someone like you than some arrogant *sshole

See that's it, as soon as I start to feel confident I feel like I am that arrogant arsehole and I want to bury myself. And I think I probably do come across as arrogant when I am trying to be confident because I am trying to not doubt myself. I don't know I find the whole thing terrifying. I'd rather just keep quiet, but then I find myself contributing to things because in my head it is so important and I should contribute, but then I wish I hadn't. Complicated.

 

[Queen Boudica]

Say ONE bad OPINION of me; my brain takes that in as FACT; thats my issue..

I think our brain just already thinks it and puts prevalence on those negative opinions over anything positive. We filter out the positive and highlight the negative because it MUST be right because that is what we have been so used, to.