What Makes Some People Irresistible?

[shimmerz]

lol. I will get to working on this list when I can actually hold a gaze with someone again. PTSD be damned.

 

[ladee]

For me, the 'unlearning' was harder than the 'learning'. I guess at some point I simply took the focus off of all the noise in my head. Meds have helped with that. I am not very good at mindfulness, so need little magic pills to help my mind get a little quieter.And I know at some point, I don't think it was a conscious decision, but I just let others love me until I could love myself...I feel I have the blessing of being a recovering alcoholic and addict.(34 yrs clean) So a gazillion meetings and a sponsor that knew what she was doing, starting therapy when my brain wasn't clouded anymore.... it's hard for me to say when things started coming together for me.... and I realize I am way older than you ladies. I will make a conscious effort to try and remember... This is not to say the ugly stuff doesn't come back, because it does... but I have practiced wellness long enough that I know what to do when it starts... sometimes I just have to let it play itself out. My lesson is in there somewhere..Don't know if that made sense. All that is no longer my 'truth'. I have learned to fit inside my own skin. if that makes any sense either. Mercy. I need to go to bed. I am getting on overload !!!!!! :woot: :)

 

[Ed Norton]

I just thought those things were part of good social behavior and communication. I don't know if it's 'irresistible'.

 

[ladee]

@Ed Norton, it sold some magazines....some people want to be 'irresistible", and I just want to be left alone !! :wacky:

 

[Queen Boudica]

Personally I do think young people (oh i am soooooo old) are being bought up to be so self-centred and think about themselves and that they should be the center of attention without doing any work. But I think this article although advice is right, the idea is to be irresistible which is a very self-centred thing. Just to be welcoming and kind and considerate and think about others, but not as a means to feel that you are irresistible, as said that is narcissism. But probably person who wrote it would not see that.

 

[Queen Boudica]

I've always thought irresistible was more a sexually attractive term anyway. You talk about people being popular or well-liked or charming, but irresistible?

 

[ladee]

Ya, my same thoughts... guess that word is meant for the younger crowd.... I think animals and pets are more irresistible in terms of attracting people, than humans.... I always want to pet and talk to an animal... not so with people. Animals are genuine, they don't wear masks and we don't have to wade thru a ton of sh*t to get to know them... they just ARE..

 

[anthony]

I think journalists are bored and write anything to appease the masses -- and get their paycheck. Irresistible is like normal. What one finds irresistible, another finds repulsive. What one finds normal, another does not. IMHO... nonsense.

There are knowns that you can do to appease the masses, but again, every person you approach will have a different and unique opinion and reaction to you.

 

[Changing4Best]

Yes, I have to agree with the sociopath theories mentioned here. My abuser did all those things and that was what "hooked" me into my abused state with him, before I even knew what hit me. It took me years to rescue myself from his greedy paws! (The dog).