Name that distorted cognition (thought/perception)

[Ronin]

All or nothing thinking, like miles of it. If I could sell it I'd be rich. It's activizing, which is a plus, but other than that I don't see much benefit.

 

[ms spock]

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/in-practice/201301/50-common-cognitive-distortions

41. The belief that worry and overthinking will lead to problem solving insights.

In fact, overthinking tends to impair problem solving ability and leads to avoidance coping.
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This is a go to position for me in a lot of ways. It is something I am beginning to become more aware of at this time.

 

[ms spock]

Another distorted cognition is if I am not doing something for someone then I am not of any value.

 

[Ronin]

Emotional reasoning; discovered that one when describing current situations to a worried friend. Sneaky dragged into headgames by giving them too much (any) feeling I better put elsewhere.

 

[ms spock]

The 10 primary cognitive distortions are:

1. All or nothing thinking -- You see things in black and white categories. If your performance falls short of perfect, you see yourself as a total failure.
2. Over-generalization -- You see a single negative event as a never-ending pattern of defeat.
3. Mental filter -- You pick out a single negative detail and dwell on it so exclusively that your vision of all reality becomes darkened, like the drop of ink that colors the entire beaker of water.
4. Disqualifying the positive -- You reject positive experiences by insisting they "don't count" for some reason or other. In this way you can maintain a negative belief that is contradicted by your everyday experiences.
5. Jumping to conclusions -- You make a negative interpretation even though there are no definite facts that convincingly support your conclusion. (Involves mind-reading and fortune-telling.)
6. Magnification and minimization -- You exaggerate the importance of things, or you inappropriately shrink things until they appear tiny.
7. Emotional reasoning -- You assume that your emotions necessarily reflect the way things really are, as in "I feel it, therefore it must be true."
8. Should statements -- You try to motivate yourself with "should" and "should not," as if you have to be whipped and punished before you could be expected to do anything.
9. Labeling and mislabeling -- This is an extreme form of overgeneralization. Instead of describing your error, you attach a negative label to yourself.
10. Personalization -- You see yourself as the cause of some negative external event which, in fact, you were not primarily responsible for.

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These all caused me a lot of anxiety yesterday. It was not pleasant. I did not enjoy ruminating in these thoughts. Slowly I am improving.

 

[7Cs]

My T said I do "magical thinking" the other day because I want to go back and fix it for the little me who was. But she says I can't time travel. It's true but I still want to go back and change it and make it ok again. :(

 

[The Albatross]

Your T is correct... rationally you acknowledge correct... fixing off the table means self loving kindness, compassion and acceptance.

 

[Panda Bear]

#5

I'm convinced my T is mad at me and is going to somehow punish me for the way I feel and the way I've chosen to respond to an exorbitant amounts of stress and dissisociation.

Hate this feeling! Just waiting for the invisible shoe of abuse to drop. M

 

[ms spock]

I learnt a new skill today which assisted me in assisting myself with my ruminations. It is called Turning the Mind. It really helped me with stepping out of my ruminations.

http://www.dbtselfhelp.com/html/turning_the_mind.html

and quotes from the turning the mind page include:

Life can be worth living, even when there is pain. The remedy for suffering is commitment to acceptance again and again and again.
and
Commitment is a behaviour: it can be elicited, learned and reinforced.

So I was getting stuck in ruminations and now I am able to step out of them. I am able to stop them. I am able to think things through - which my psychiatrist suggested that I do - that is think things through. It is a small incremental change.

 

[Heather]

That what we are going through will NEVER end.... that this hell will last forever.

 

[ms spock]

It does end @Heather but it also comes back from time to time. You have been a solid parent and very brave throughout all of this. Keep the faith. Hold the course. You are doing really well. It just doesn't feel good in these situations, which is confusing. It is most confusing.

 

[ms spock]

#5
I'm convinced my T is mad at me and is going to somehow punish me for the way I feel and the way I've chosen to respond to an exorbitant amounts of stress and dissisociation.

I got this with my psychiatrist the other day - but it worked out. Thanks for sharing honestly what is going on for you!