Name that distorted cognition (thought/perception)

[Heather]

@Ms Spock Thank you! I'm there today.... Tomorrow maybe another story:p.

In all seriousness I am learning that this is a process. Two steps forward five step back.

 

[Panda Bear]

Which distortion covers burying your head in the sand?

Because that's me....

 

[angrypanda]

@angrypanda :tup: Recognition is the first step! Congrats on your embrace but be...

Thank you! Also read the article posted by albatross I think on wikihow. It was like my soul was starving for this information, like someone gave a perfect description of my struggle. I'm working on basic tools like identify and stopping the thinking spiral effect.
Thanks for the ((hug))

 

[Recovery4Me]

@Panda Bear

This thread is working with the following:

I have a lot of distorted cognitions (thoughts/perceptions) and I thought writing out our thinking and then naming those distorted cognitions could be fun and educational as well.

The 10 primary cognitive distortions are:

1. All or nothing thinking -- You see things in black and white categories. If your performance falls short of perfect, you see yourself as a total failure.
2. Over-generalization -- You see a single negative event as a never-ending pattern of defeat.
3. Mental filter -- You pick out a single negative detail and dwell on it so exclusively that your vision of all reality becomes darkened, like the drop of ink that colors the entire beaker of water.
4. Disqualifying the positive -- You reject positive experiences by insisting they "don't count" for some reason or other. In this way you can maintain a negative belief that is contradicted by your everyday experiences.
5. Jumping to conclusions -- You make a negative interpretation even though there are no definite facts that convincingly support your conclusion. (Involves mind-reading and fortune-telling.)
6. Magnification and minimization -- You exaggerate the importance of things, or you inappropriately shrink things until they appear tiny.
7. Emotional reasoning -- You assume that your emotions necessarily reflect the way things really are, as in "I feel it, therefore it must be true."
8. Should statements -- You try to motivate yourself with "should" and "should not," as if you have to be whipped and punished before you could be expected to do anything.
9. Labeling and mislabeling -- This is an extreme form of overgeneralization. Instead of describing your error, you attach a negative label to yourself.
10. Personalization -- You see yourself as the cause of some negative external event which, in fact, you were not primarily responsible for.

Add On:
No 11. Magical thinking is a distorted cognition as well. It is a big one for Developmental Trauma/Complex Trauma from childhood abuse. Well it is for me anyway.

Jumping to conclusions or Number 5 -might warn me not to answer your 'head in the sand' question.:clown:

 

[Ronin]

I'd say it depends on the reason, so there with R4M, though also wondering since the need to hide from everything as everything's too dark may be present in that ducking into the sand, mental filter is probably involved?

 

[Panda Bear]

I don't see any that fit.....

Perhaps #1....

 

[Ronin]

<grin> Glad you've found what's seeming closest, @Panda Bear.

It may be hard for a start, and you're tackling something new - it's alright if the phrasing feels off for a time or nothing 'really' fits, finding what's closest & then expanding on it, starting /somewhere/, is good enough.

 

[Panda Bear]

Thanks @Cashew

Some days I'm on and others? I'm way way off....

Fictional #11.....Just screw it all.

 

[Ronin]

I'm at the eleventh one so often, @Panda Bear :giggle:

Back to topic, I'm jumping to conclusions & shoulding myself.

 

[Heather]

Thinking that an 11 year old can hurt me (my daughters abuser). Taking space in my head grrrr.

 

[ms spock]

Jumping to Conclusions - mind reading and fortune telling. I am thinking that people are thinking badly of me.

 

[Heather]

Allowing an 11 yr old to take up space in my head..... Telling awful lies about my daughter and the other little girl she abused.

JUST CAN'T GET IT OUT OF MY MIND.