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That's a big and very important step. Welcome.

Oh, and I'm glad things mostly went well. Does it seem like progress?

It's not really a trigger but it is exhausting. Being always 'on' takes a lot of energy. Relaxing can be a bit of a problem itself. It took me a long time to realize why I became tense when I had a chance to relax. Its because my PTSD brain says bad things happen when I let down my guard.

I really hate when people misuse the word that way.

The smell of burning diesel The smell of dust on a really hot day The smell of decaying flesh Little girls with dark hair and dark eyes I've beat the whole rice thing and have almost worked past the sound of helicopters. So I guess I'm at about 4.5 triggers :)

Good point. I've had Americans tell me Canada is a Socialist country because we have socialized medicine.

You and I both.

I didn't see any mention of socialism in there. You don't need to be a socialist to engage with others, care for others, or engage with ideas that challenge your own. I certainly don't consider myself a socialist.

Because now I'll ask how you feel about that person :) You'll need to consider them in your relationship with your SO as well. BTW I understand your need to write things out. It's so easy to say the wrong thing when you don't have time to think things through.

In the western world these days it is so easy to isolate ourselves from views that do not match ours. Our Facebook pages, news streams, smartphones, etc. feed us information that matches our world view. Thier algorithms drive a wedge between us. Everything becomes 'me and people like me' versus...

So I've been thinking more about your post. It has hit a nerve somewhere in me. The self-criticism seems to have two functions for both of us. One positive and one negative. It protects us from the helplessness that comes with trauma but it prevents us from accepting success. If we succeed it...

Do you know the other person in the poly relationship?

I think the powerlessness part is very difficult for most people. I know it has been for me. All the 'could haves', 'should haves' and 'would haves' are just another way of refusing to accept that some things are beyond our control. Even more frightening is that if we accept that if we were...

Hi, @EveHarrington. Are you in a daily or residential group at the moment? If so now is the time to push yourself. It's your first day. It's a little soon to be deciding it's not working.

Bandit after explaining why squirrels are the root of all evil - http://imgur.com/a/UcLkN

I'm still not clear how he would know you would be offended? But even if he did know what would be his priority? Your life or your business?

While I'm an exercise or hit a punching bag kind of guy there are alternatives. Art therapy can be great for dealing with anger. I saw refugee kids tell their story on a sheet of paper even when they couldn't make the words come out.

How did he know how badly you would react? Did you discuss it beforehand? Could he believe your SI is more than merely passive?

Yeah, there are days I think the same.

I don't know your local laws but I suspect it is both. Is it the formality you object to or is it the intent of protecting you?

I came across this today. Not sure why. Maybe just introspection. Why veterans miss war . Its true. I miss it. I miss my brothers and sisters. I miss being with people I knew I could trust. I miss being needed. I miss the responsibility. I felt like a lone wolf who had found his pack. I...

Five Finger Death Punch - Wrong Side Of Heaven Whenever I feel the anger closing in again I play this song loud a couple of times. Then I go and do kettlebell snatches or hit the heavybag until my hands bleed.

Yes. I've done it.

Welcome @Aideun32

Being drunk does not mean you deserve to be raped. On the same day or any other day.