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My immediate family are all in the 4-digit number of miles away, so either we don't do Christmas at all or have a few months' notice of Christmas (booking flights and whatnot). Also relatives' allergies to the cold (even if they get to stay inside) mean that there's no way they're going to want...

Mind you keep the combustibles at some distance from that stove!

Wood stoves make a domicile slightly easier to visit for Santa, but it's full-on fireplaces with their chimneys that he likes best (and which are highly inefficient in comparison).

Sometimes I remember that things like EMDR date from 1987, CBT is from the 1950s, DBT from 1991. They're all very young in the history of science, spent a lot of time percolating through the field, and much of adjacent fields like neuroscience are even minty-fresher. Also in 1987 came Star...

Well, crap. My upper lip may be stiff, but I can recognise that sometimes my objectivity may be compromised. Hence when my wife suggested therapy, I sought out some therapy. She's doing therapy too for other reasons. We have friends who are or have been. Much therapeutising going on.

Symptoms since May, weekly therapy since July.

Got down to -11 last night (fahrenheit; -24 for all you centigraders out there) at almost the exact time I had to take the garbage and recycling down the driveway to the street. Overheating under all the layers I was putting on before I could get outside, but that's fine: didn't need a second...

It's complicated, especially so with works of art that a lot of different people contribute to. The Lord of the Rings trilogy, for instance, credits Weinstein as an executive producer (apparently that was contractual since Miramax originally had the film rights; Weinstein had tried to get the...

I hope you find what you need here, @zytroxide. What's the outlook on getting some professional help for diagnoses and treatment, if I may be so bold as to ask?

My point is that the figure you cited for arson in England & Wales is fully 3x higher than the total number of fires in England, therefore fails the smell test. From my link, there is no figure of 603,942 given for anything. There is a figure of 600,185 incidents that Fire and Rescue services...

In 2024 there were 136,702 fires in England, in total.

A rural-only UK visit eh? Let's see... Stonehenge, Ironbridge probably counts, the café at Lizard Point surely does, then there's the Munroes for running up and down, and I'm rather fond of Alderley Edge myself (the Edge, not the village). Bakewell for the Bakewell tarts I'd hope would be...

I daresay you'll find a lot of people with that attachment style here. I pretty much max out the avoidance scores and lean a bit into the anxious side of the scale, which I guess kinda counts? Somehow I've been married to another avoidant for nearly two decades now - we're cool with giving...

Evidence from the US is that less than 3% of active mass shootings are stopped by an armed civilian. Also see Uvalde for a fairly recent example of having very many "good guys with guns" doing nothing for far too long while murders take place. Which makes sense: if you open carry, you're the...

Shower. Make a snow angel.

Hey, don't knock my buddy Holden here: he has outstanding moral character from the start. (Which is why Amos is the more interesting character, because he has to learn that stuff with "I am that man" halfway along his journey).

Once upon a time I was accidentally triggered by my therapist describing - not even stepping me through as an exercise, but describing... well, okay, beginning to describe - a particular common grounding technique. That was not on my bingo card (and I very much doubt it was on hers either)...

I live in the upper midwestern USA, but I didn't grow up here. "Spicy" dishes in restaurants are calibrated to local palates, and "spicy" here means "you can just about taste the first thought of the merest possibility of making the dish hot". Hence when I order food I want to be able to tell...

Could you at least launch a slander suit and ask your kids if they'd be ok with it first?

I'm going to advocate here for kids having the chance to see their paladin parent again.

Any in-person support groups in your area? Or any interest groups whose jib you like the cut of?

I ain't got much but I have ears. Well, eyeballs in this context.

Nothing actually bad has ever happened to them so they never developed aversions nor any understanding of what the converse means.

Well I just spent <5 mins in my local one for two items and it was so, so much busier than usual for this time of week. I bet it's Thanksgiving combined with the threat of snow on Wednesday. People walking by on all sides, checkout taking too long and so being boxed in. I wasn't intending to...

Greetings @Mapenzi. There's understanding company to be found here!